A somewhat poodley anti-climax

By Mir
April 26, 2012

After eight years of babbling about my innermost feelings online, I’ve learned a lot of things. Mostly I’ve learned that you’d much rather we talk about my hair than my angst. (I’m trying not to take it personally.)

People who know me in real life (a.k.a. Friendship Outside The Shiny Box) generally fell into two camps after I wrote about my hair last month: The first group read that post, called me up to say, “Really? REALLY?” and then forgot about it, while the second group called me up to lobby their specific preference and then came back a time or two (or twelve) over the next few weeks to see what I’d decided. The latter group tickled me endlessly because 1) it’s just hair, 2) it’s not even YOUR hair, and 3) I just can’t get that invested in the process because IT’S JUST HAIR.

And yet, a decision was made, and an appointment was made, but then there was radio silence because I’m a selfish monster. Or because my stylist didn’t have an opening for several weeks. And also because I was sort of tired of talking about it. (See also: JUST. HAIR.) But because I know y’all care deeply, let’s talk about it some more!

Here I have to pause a moment, by the way, to say that the most amusing comment I received on my hair post at Off Our Chests was someone anonymous who said:

DO NOT GO GRAY. I can’t think of anything that ages a woman faster. don’t get lazy, please please please don’t be one of those women who gives up. Gray does NOT look natural or beautiful, it looks OLD and you have a wonderful husband who does not want you to look OLD.

On the one hand, a person who comments anonymously like that makes me sad because it’s clear to me that Anonymous’ mother didn’t love him/her (kidding! mostly!); but on the other hand, Otto and I got a ton of humor mileage out of that particular gem. I believe at one point he said something about how the day I start making these decisions based upon some perceived preference of his for me to look eternally 25 is the day I should either get back in the kitchen and bake him a pie OR smack myself until I wake up from that nightmare, he can never remember which. (Because I was taking that discussion very seriously, I believe I nodded, thanked him, and said, “Mmmmmm… pie!”)

You know what? I dyed my hair for a really long time. And I loved how it looked. I don’t regret it at all. But I’ve reached a place where I’m comfortable being gray, because… I am. I don’t know why, exactly, or what changed, but I’m about 50% gray now and after 6 months of letting those roots grow longer and longer, I was totally, utterly, completely at peace with my hair color. Sorry, Anonymous! I don’t call that “giving up,” I call that “being comfortable with myself.” I guess that makes me some sort of slacker.

So the issue, for me, really wasn’t about the color (other than what other people like my pal Anonymous might think about it, though I did have a wee bit of worry about it potentially having some career impact, because there’s plenty of people with deeply held beliefs about What Things Mean out there), but the length. There’s no good way to “embrace the gray” when your hair is long other than to just cut out the color and move on from there. Someone here (I can’t remember who, but I’m sure you’re very pretty) sent me a link to a blog done by a woman who chronicled her gray grow-out without going short, and yeah, she just had two-tone hair for a long time, and I applaud her for being comfortable with that, but I just wasn’t. My hair was kind of a hot mess and I just wanted it DONE.

Basically, I wanted the color resolved MORE than I wanted to keep it long.

So I made the appointment and waited impatiently and finally the day arrived.

Chickadee went with me to virtually hold my hand. (Well, that’s what she said. Personally, I think—even though she’s gotten over the shock and says she likes it, now—she just wanted revenge for her own short haircut.) We had to wait at the salon while my stylist finished up with another client, and by the time she put me in the chair I was actually feeling a little nervous.

“What are we doing today?” she asked. “Same as always?”

I took a deep breath. “Nope! I’m done coloring. Cut it off.” Her eyes widened for a moment, then she nodded. We briefly discussed my concerns—mostly that I really didn’t want to end up looking like somebody’s grandmother with her perm and sensible short cut—and then she got to work.

As I detailed yesterday over at Cornered Office, the cut was rather surreal. I forget, sometimes, how much freakin’ hair I have. It felt like she cut and cut and cut and kept cutting and the hair-drifts on the floor got deeper and deeper and STILL I WAS NOT BALD. Also (as you can see from the pic over there), clearing out the massive amounts of still-dyed hair made my gray pattern much more evident, and I’ve discovered that I’m a lot more gray in the back (like, from the crown of my head backwards) than I am right in the front. That was a happy discovery; depending on the lightning and the angle, I still look not-terribly-gray from the front.

Now… as for the cut….

It’s fine. I mean, I think she did a great job. I also think that after 40 years of having curly hair I should not always be so damn surprised by how curly my hair is, but I think a lot of things that aren’t actually true. So of course I’m having a lot of the HOLY CRAP MY HAIR IS ALL POODLEY kind of thing, in spite of myself.

I mean, I appreciate Otto taking this picture out on the porch, but then I look at it and think, “Wow, I actually look more poodley than THE ACTUAL POODLE in this picture.” (Granted, she’s only half poodle, and I am… well, I’m probably all poodle.)

People have generally been very complimentary. On the other hand, I went to a meeting yesterday where I was greeted by someone I hadn’t seen for a while with, “What prompted this?” along with a hand gesture indicating my hair. That… did not exactly feel like positive affirmation. Heh.

I haven’t decided if I’m keeping it short, yet. It’s about to start mimicking the surface of the sun, ’round here, and I think I’ll appreciate spending the summer with a lighter head. Come fall, I dunno. Maybe I’ll get used to the ease of this (because DAMN, I had forgotten how easy short hair is, having had a takes-four-hours-to-air-dry mop of hair for so long) and decide to keep it this way. Or maybe I’ll say, “Huh, I miss having it long” and grow it out again.

Whatever. It’s just hair.


  1. chloe

    and you look beautiful. :-)

  2. Debbi

    Your hair looks beautiful!!

  3. Heather

    Surpise!! You are still beautiful!!

  4. Midj

    Beautiful! But then, again, you always are.

    DD has asked me not to make my once yearly visit to the stylist until after her graduation as she does not care for (read: hates) my short hair and wants the pictures to have my shoulder length style. I’m hanging in there, but am envious of your new look!

  5. allysha

    You look beautiful.

  6. ChristieNY

    Absolutely lovely! It looks great AND you are comfortable with it, win-win! :)

  7. Becky

    Well, I think it looks great. I have really short hair myself, and I love how easy it is (other than how often I need to get it cut).

  8. Varda (SquashedMom)

    The cut looks great on you! Enjoy! I also have curly, curly poodle hair, long and in the 4-hour-dry category. My mother has curly hair that was always worn short and at this point my great fear in cutting my hair is looking like my mother. I love her, but really don’t want to look like her, you know?

    I know you keep saying “It’s just hair” But for those of us with “signature hair” – hair which is our biggest distinguishing feature, which our sense of physical identity is tied up in? It IS a big deal. I’m glad you got through the big hair change with a minimum of angst. I’m not sure I could do that. Although some day, who knows?

  9. Gaylin

    Hey – you look great! And not old at all. Actually what I noticed first is your lovely smile.

  10. bonuela

    why do you keep using poodley as derogatory? how is that supposed to make poor licorice feel? do we need to start doing PSAs to get folks to stop using the “P” word?

    P.S. your hair looks really cute!

  11. amy

    The hand gesture person? Probably more related to the length than the actual look (of the cut or the colour). I cut my hair really short for the first time in my adult life, ever, a couple of years ago and people pretty much went berserk.

    Males hated it and told me to COMMENCE GROWING IT ALL BACK, and females hesitantly told me it was great (or flat-out lied) and that they liked it.

    I hated it, I hated growing it out, and will never go that short again. BUT! It’s just hair.

  12. Kate

    I think you look fantastic.

  13. Jess

    I think your hair looks lovely.

    I once got a short haircut and had someone respond, “Well, that was bold.” My thought, “So she doesn’t like it.” Heh.

  14. Rachel C.

    love it.
    and i said the same thing when i got my hair cut recently. the stylist asked a question and i said i am ok if it ends up shorter than we anticipate. it is just hair and it grows back. :)
    you look great. internal and external beauty.

  15. Erin

    I love it, Mir! I think it looks awesome, and really suits you. And–honestly, I’m not just saying this–I actually think you look YOUNGER. Lighter. Fresher.

  16. Leslie

    Mir, your hair (and you) are gorgeous! I have completely straight hair, so I don’t know how a short cut like that would look on me. I am currently in the midst of growing mine long. We’ll see how long I hold out. I predict I’ll weaken when August comes around!

  17. margaret

    I think it is FABULOUS! Good on you for going for it. I am in the camp that believes that going gray is not being lazy–I admire the ability to get past What Other People Think.

    To agree somewhat with Varda, I identified myself on a voice mail to a friend as “that pesky redhead.” When the call was returned and he asked what I would do if I found out I wasn’t really a redhead, I almost stopped breathing. I completely understand “signature hair,” but as my grays increase I will let them be.

  18. Justin

    How disappointing. I was expecting steel gray matron and you look young stylish. LOL

  19. birchsprite

    absolutely gorgeous! I think it looks lovely and you most definitely do not look older at all. It’s a beautiful cut! Health to wear!

  20. Nelson's Mama

    I LOVE it – very flirty and sassy!

    I was one of the “my husband doesn’t like gray hair camp” – what I didn’t relate is that he’d like for me to have a Farrah Fawcett looking ‘do! You saw how that’s working for him ;-)

  21. elz

    Whatever makes you happy is best. That said, (small voice) I rather liked your old hairstyle. I think you are lovely either way. It’s just not what I’m used to seeing when I think of you. Does that make sense?

  22. Mir

    Sokay, Elz. I get it. And I still love you. ;)

  23. Patricia

    I have read you for years and I’ve watched the photos of yourself change over these years. I know that 2012 is the year of suck, but do you have any idea how much “comfortable in my own skin” you look now?

    You are stunning. Over the years I’ve watched your photos, specifically your eyes and your smile, shifted from “Am I doing this right?” to “Hi, I’m happy.” And don’t you dare tell me that you are faking that — because this isn’t the I feel good today happy…this is the “i’m good with who I am and I who I’m becoming” happy.

    And the haircut is awesome — enjoy the breeze this summer.

  24. Mir

    Awwww Patricia! Stop it! That may be the nicest thing anyone’s ever said to me. And no, not faking… sometimes when life is hard you’re a little more grateful for the good stuff. In that picture, some of that good stuff was in my lap and pointing a camera at me and standing behind the cameraman, too. :)

  25. Katherine

    I think your hair style looks great – and not at all gray in that photo. It looks like it will be easy, cool and comfortable for our hot, humid summer coming.

    I’m going to go get my hair chopped back soon – its gotten long enough that it bugs me AND its long enough that I can donate it.

  26. anonymous

    I’m sorry to see you’ve thrown in the towel on how you look. Next you’ll be wearing those perpetual sweatpants that you stand up next to the bed at night. Nothing left to do now but pack on a couple hundred pounds and hope you don’t break a hip going from the couch to the kitchen. Maybe Otto can just rent somebody to take to next years awards banquet.

    [Ed. note: I assume this comment is satire, because otherwise it doesn’t make any sense. I don’t even own a pair of sweatpants.]

  27. Aimee

    Well, gorgeous lady! You look beautiful, and happy. And weirdly, I wouldn’t look at this picture and call it either lazy OR giving up. OR poodley, for that matter. Although “poodley” is sure fun to type and say. Poodley poodley poodley. ;)

  28. Melissa

    Aww, I can’t top what Patricia said – but I want to chime in that you DO look lovely, and happy! I haven’t gotten the bravery to go short yet…maybe someday!

  29. Karen

    I’m just sitting here wondering who the hell would have the lack of grace to say something even remotely like “What.. prompted THIS?”……. with a hand gesture as an exclamation point.

    It is just hair, as you have said…and short or long, it frames your pretty face very nicely. I say, enjoy the easier upkeep because you still look maaavelous. Otto strikes me as the kind of guy who doesn’t give a crap whether your hair is long or short, graying or dyed. Just be you, kiddo, because that’s who he fell for. More than once :-)

  30. Ruth

    Well, I think the new cut is great, and tremendously flattering. Frankly, I think that long hair stops being youthful once we get to A Certain Age and starts to look more like “trying too hard to retain one’s youth.” They drag the face down.

    This cut is light and happy. I like it.

  31. LH

    Even though you did not ask my opinion, I actually like your angsty posts. As far as the hair, I like it. I am lucky God made up for giving me childbearing hips by giving me hair that is only slightly flecked with gray at 50 something. Ya take what ya get! ;-)

  32. Billie

    I think it looks gorgeous!! AND, you look so happy.

  33. Heather

    You and your hair and your happy are just beautiful <3

  34. Lucinda

    Lovely. And yes, it’s just hair. It always grows. You look beautiful.

  35. Katie in MA

    Gasp! Love!!! I don’t know if this is going to make sense, but even though I love/d how you look with your longer hair, you look even more You-er this way. Happy and comfortable and just…You. :)

  36. Sharon

    So happy for you- it looks great and you look so happy!

  37. KGP

    I think it looks fantastic! The cut suits you, and you look really happy in the picture.

    Sometimes I wish I could go short… But my hair tends to look a bit like a mushroom when it gets too short… I need the length to weigh it down, I think.

  38. Julie

    Oh my gosh! Cute, cute, cute! And you can’t see the gray at all!

  39. Little Bird

    I think it looks great! Sophisticated! Anyone who says negative things about is a wet blanket.

  40. Jean

    Lovely and you look soooo happy! :)

  41. Arnebya

    You look happy and that makes me happy. I’ve had that freedom of short hair (every now and again the urge to chop it off hits me. I just may relent this summer). Enjoy it and decide whenever you decide about keeping it or growing it out. Being comfortable with yourself is liberating, no?

  42. Katie K.

    I think your hair looks lovely, and it is even lovlier to see you looking so happy after the past few months of difficult times. Hope all of your bad times were lopped off with the hair.

  43. el-e-e

    I love it!! I’m nearing the stage where I want to stop coloring mine, too, I think. Maybe.

  44. Karen R.

    I totally think you should base everything you do on Otto not wanting you to look old. And then bake him a pie.

    The haircut is lovely, and you look terrific. And I bet Otto will love you just as much no matter what hairstyle you choose.

  45. Angela

    What is the deal with deals? LOL…..ANYhooo…..I think you look great! My aunt has the same color/curl of hair and I’ve always really liked the way it looked with the salt and pepper colors. However, she recently went BLONDE and….well, I’m not a fan. But I agree with Aimee, I love the word poodley! I have a poodle and we always say how poodley she is ;-P Such a poodley poodle! She’ll have you know that “poodley” is HOT, as she’s always prancing and prissing her little butt around the house :-) Work it girl!

  46. RuthWells

    It’s adorable. Also love your earrings.

  47. Megan

    Totally agree with what Patricia said – that smile is in your eyes and it just makes you glow!

    Short hair is one of those you can do it or you can’t sort of things (IMO, natch). I keep wanting to think I CAN do it but I know I really truly CAN’T even though it would be simpler and easier and much cooler. Sigh.

    But you? You are ROCKIN’ the short. It looks young and fresh and light and fantastic.

    [note: I’d be kinda tempted to threaten that any Teenagery Type Attitude will result in spiking the hair dramatically and hanging out with said teen ALL THE TIME until the attitude changes – you know, just to give a demonstration of how you were too a teen and totally remember how it’s done – but I am an evil, evil person who should not be trusted with things like fun short hair!]

  48. Trish C

    I think it actually looks younger now than before.

  49. Lulu

    Wow! You look great! I, too, was expecting some matronly gray visage — and that shot ain’t it! You’re still quite young, cool & professional-looking. Good on ya!

    And honey, I pay wads o’cash every couple of months to get a perm for that exact look, because my hair is straight, thin, and limp on its own. The daily routine is quick & easy, and I’ve gotten more compliments on this hairstyle than I’ve had my entire life — no lie! With one, single exception: my father. His first words on seeing this style was (not Hi, not welcome, not I’ve missed you…), “What’s with the hair?” That is just one reason I live 1000 miles from him and don’t visit very often. I’ve had hair styles from long enough to sit on to shaved head (fun!) and loads in between, but my dad has given me crap about every. single. style. (He never did see the shaved head. Woulda killed him…or someone.) It’s a wonder I don’t have more hair angst. (My issues are elsewhere, she muttered.) Truly, “It’s just hair!”

  50. Brigid

    I don’t suppose “Being comfortable with myself” applies to failing to shave one’s legs. No?

    Your eyes are what stand out the most to me. I can totally tell who was taking this picture. :)

  51. Grace

    You look fantastic, and I particularly love the gray.

  52. Stacy

    I love your hair! It looks amazing! You look great and you have a beautiful smile! I actually think it makes you look a little younger, not older.

  53. Jenn C.

    Wow. You look gorgeous! I love the cut, and your natural color is really pretty.

    Isn’t it crazy how tied up people get about hair (and OTHER PEOPLE’S hair, at that?)

  54. liz

    Am totally jealous of your hair. I love the shape of the cut, I love the curls, and I love how it frames your face with such grace and style.

  55. Em

    The shorter cut really highlights how awesome your eyebrows are ( I never noticed before!) and your beautiful smile (which I has noticed but still highlighted by the short cut). You look lovely (probably even when you do wear sweatpants ;-)

  56. dad

    Your readers should be aware that I had previously expressed how awesome I thought you looked with your new doo. Is 2012 the year you discover you are gorgeous? The new look is definitely anti-suck.
    The only disadvantage I can think of is that you are far to cute to be effective delivering that angry vagina monologue.

    And I agree with Justin, there is not a hint of “steel gray matron.”

  57. Jamie

    Lovely (a lot less gray than I was expecting, to be honest)! And I love Patricia’s comment, too.

  58. Nancy

    You are pretty!

  59. lily

    Mir, You look beautiful in that picture! I’m envious because I feel that any woman who can pull off a short cut is naturally beautiful. I’ve had my hair that short before but only got compliments once the hair grew long again.

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  61. Marla

    LOVE IT! Leave it short – I think it’s prettier and doesn’t overwhelm your face.

  62. alicia

    OMG MIR! it’s lovely! I didn’t comment when you were deciding what to do, but this is simply a beautiful cut for you. :)

  63. Annie

    You’re so pretty !

  64. Celeste

    I think it’s very sassy, Mir. I have started to consider quitting the coloring too, but my natural color is mousy, very mousy. Your salt and pepper hair is pretty. Salt and mousy is just drab.

  65. 12tequilas

    Here’s to hairstylists who KNOW HOW to cut curly hair. They are hard to find. I’m expecting mine to leave me any day now.

    Anyway, you look wonderful. To the person who said: “what prompted this?” I would have answered, “what prompted you to wear that today?” or something.

  66. Kim T

    I think you look great.

  67. Debbi

    It’s damned cute hair.

  68. Frank

    Think I can sum my feeling on the ‘do with the following observation: great pics always signify time to update your Avatar.

    After reading that.. I feel a small word of explanation: its excellent enough to let yourself be seen as that pic. Tho Patricia above said it best… the idea that you can let the world see you as that pic is the highest compliment I can think of.

  69. Allison

    Mir, I really love your hair. When I was looking at the picture, I thought, “What is she talking about? I see zero gray.” Then I saw the shot from above and was able to see the gray–and it’s STILL NOT GRAY. It’s SILVER, which is so much better. And because we are basically hair twins, and I am only 26 but have been getting more and more silver hairs over the past few years, seeing yours gives me hope that one day mine will also look that pretty.

  70. katspeakz

    I think you look absolutely adorable. I was expecting a lot more gray, and I say that as a fan of gray. It’s an easy summer cut and it suits you. Now, if you are baking pies, I prefer peach. We can eat it in our jammies (I don’t own sweats either).

  71. Andrea

    Love it! You look amazing. I wear my hair super short, and I hear lots of “not many women can wear their hair that short” comments. ALWAYS take it as a compliment–you are beautiful, and now you’re showcasing your great smile!

  72. Suzy

    I can’t believe that anyone would not like this cut – it looks adorable. And definitely young looking. I am of the school that as one ages, the hair should go shorter. Of course, I also live on the face of the sun and hate when my hair is all sweaty and gross from heat.

  73. Jeanie

    Two thumbs up!

  74. Otto

    This is for whatever Internet troll has stumbled into this realm and is posting as “anonymous:”

    1. Screw you.
    2. I will never rent someone to take anywhere.
    3. If my wife DOES decide to buy a pair of sweatpants, so be it. Despite how she taks about shoes, clothes do not make the woman – the woman makes the woman.
    4. Screw you.
    5. Silver hair is sexy, even if it’s only three strands worth.
    6. Your rock called and feels hollow, go climb back under it.


    PS – Screw you.

  75. Julie

    Your dad said “vagina”.
    And, Otto, you rock.
    The hair? Love It!!!

  76. Holly

    I think you look absolutely gorgeous. Stunning, even. You have the happy sparkle in your eyes.

  77. Kristi

    Saaaa–ssay! And sexy! And stunning!

  78. addy

    Love the do – love dad – love Otto…. and its just Hair people!

  79. Lady M

    You look terrific, Mir!

  80. Jessica (the celt)

    Your dad and Otto are awesome people, so it’s no wonder that you’re awesome people, too. That said, I LOVE the haircut! I only saw the other pic yesterday from the top, and from this angle, it’s adorable.

    I think Anonymous has never had anyone’s unconditional love (assuming the same anonymous from before is the anonymous above), because it doesn’t seem they understand how much my husband loves ME over my hair or any other superficial choices I make (and Otto loves you over any wardrobe choices). Where do these people come from that they think your hair will make someone choose an escort over one’s own spouse? I pity either them or their spouses…

  81. Chris

    Ok. Love the hair, love Otto and your Dad.

    (And it is still just hair not a life commitment in any case)

    I echo the point that you look happy which is the most important thing.

  82. Kelly

    Two words- Love it!

  83. erma

    Mir, Firstly, thumbs up for your Dad and for Otto.
    Then, your haircut is fabulous! You look gorgeous.

  84. Laura

    It looks SO GOOD! I love the cut, you are adorable, and I don’t even see any stinkin’ gray.

  85. teachergirl

    well, i think it’s gorgeous and suits you quite well, even though we’re not friends outside the big shiny box. way to go for being brave.

  86. Pam

    OMG, you are just beautiful!!!! It makes you look young and full of energy! You sure made the right choice, that’s for sure. Enjoy your new hot look and the cool breezes of summer.

  87. Wendy

    Personally, I was all ready to not like it, but I really love it. It really looks great.

  88. Toni

    Sassy ‘do! It looks fantastic!

  89. Debra

    OMG! What a gorgeous cut! What is not to love? You are absolutely stunning with short hair. Seriously! Look how fabulous you look in that picture? Was it the hair that put that smile on your face and your eyes light up or was it the photographer?

  90. Miriam

    So if it is any indication of how great you look, I skipped ahead eagerly to the picture, thought “well, okay is this the 10 years ago picture for comparison? Where is the new one of her looking all gray and old?”. Then I scrolled some more, went back to read the whole post, thinking how the picture couldn’t be very old because Licorice was in it and wow! You look fantastic! I mean, you are Sooo pretty!

  91. Stacey

    Love it!

  92. lizneust

    Oh, I love this, I would love to have this haircut, actually, but I have a case of chipmunk cheeks that would make me look like a bowling ball with brown fuzz on top. Just fun and fabulous. Yay.

  93. Annette

    I, too, have followed you through the years. I have to say when I saw this picture I was taken by surprise at bow absolutely beautiful you look:)

    And you know what I think looks worse than grey hair? My 64 year old mom and 70 year old mother in law that still die their hair. Seriously?

  94. Peggy

    You look gorgeous!!

  95. EmmaC

    Mir! Your haircut is awesome! My jaw dropped when I saw the picture. I kid you not, you look years younger. …Not that you looked “old” before…or anything…erm…foot in mouth disease, I HAS IT! (But really, I love the cut. You look gorgeous. And I also support and applaud your going grey.)

  96. Casey

    “And I am… well, I’m probably all poodle.” LOL!!!!

  97. Rasselas

    As someone who has deadly-straight hair, I always get baffled when people complain about having some curl. You do not have to style your hair to look naturally beautiful and fun! Whereas I look like a matron if I don’t do something with my hair, and it gets really boring.

    There’s nothing poodle-like about your hair. I love the way your new haircut compliments your face! It looks very feminine and lovely, while also being pretty unique.

    I’ve been stuck with this huge long ponytail that comes down to half my back, and I simply have no idea what to do to change things about. Mostly because I hate hair getting into my eyes, but I really should get things wilder!

  98. dad

    So Otto, how do really feel about Anonymous?

  99. Mir

    I know, right, Dad? I was making dinner when that happened, found it later on. There wasn’t even pie. It’s almost like… my husband is a wonderful human being. Who I am persecuting with my TERRIBLE HAIR.

    Poor Otto!

  100. Kelly

    Hair is just an accessory meant to be changed, but for record I love it. It highlights your wonderful smile in that picture, which just lights you up.

  101. Michelle

    Wow, you look adorable!! But then you’re the sort of woman who is beautiful no matter whether you have short and curly or long and curly (I think it’s your smile). Maybe it’s just my own personal bias but I think pixie type cuts make women look younger so despite the gray you still look like you’re in your 20’s. Now I gotta go back and read the other comments and see if I’m in the minority.

  102. shadymama

    mir! you look GORGEOUS. and patricia’s comment up there is ABSOLUTELY RIGHT. i’m so happy to read this post today because on monday, *i* am lopping off my 2 foot long, 5 year old dreadlocks…and i’m feeling a bit nervous! but i, too, love who i am and am comfortable in my skin and cannot wait to feel the breeze on my neck. cheers, mir, you beautiful woman, you.

  103. Heather

    It is perfect!!! I also see it at a bold statement – a punch in the face to 2012 – that no matter what punches get thrown your way you come back stronger, better, happier… daring it to try again…

    Having great hair but bad hips just like a reader before, i think that short hair is much harder than long… long hair is lazy as “brush, pull it back, and all done.” Short hair requires much more…

  104. Amy

    It looks great! I was expecting way more gray. Despite some other posters’ doom and gloom predictions, you don’t look at all older (not that it matters a bit if you did, of course).

    I love my gray hairs. I’m blonde to begin with, so the grays aren’t very pronounced, but the ones that do show more clearly and just fine with me. I don’t plan to ever dye my hair–I’ve always loved it when women can pull of a more youthful haircut with gray hair.

  105. Pat

    Yeah Otto!! Yeah Dad!! Great hair Mir!!

  106. Crisanne

    Love it, Mir. Much as I do prefer longer hair styles in general, I love the way it shows off your sparkling eyes. As for the 100% poodle, please tell me you don’t shake uncontrollably and pee everywhere when you first meet people! I’d very much like to meet you some day, some where, and, well, perhaps I should just bring a roll of paper towels just in case! :)

  107. Rachel

    I love the new haircut!! And, I also love Otto’s comments & his obvious love for you!

  108. Nancy R

    I’m giggling over Julie’s reaction to the comments by your Dad and Otto. I’ve always let my girls decide what happens at haircuts because IT’S JUST HAIR. I hope it keeps them from stressing about hair, or compromising to please someone else…although, THEIR Mom will never convince them to get a mullet so they can try short hair while still having a ponytail. ;p

  109. jadine

    I’m 44 and color my hair myself. Getting it professionally done is sooooo much better, but I’m a cheap-skate, and I can’t always justify the cost. Anyway, I’m mostly grey on top and in the front. I spent the first 35 years of life with uncurlable straight hair, but the greyer I get, the more … uh, pube-y my hair gets. I have a co-worker who’s hair is 100% grey, and she wears it in a pony tail. I can’t even imagine her with colored hair; her grey looks great on her. On me? I’m not ready to surrender yet. You: your hair looks great! Totally suits your face, and the color(s) are pretty. My hair is long, long, long, and I know I need to cut it to a more grown-up length, but again, I’m not quite ready to go as short as you (I’ve had it as short as yours in the past, and liked it) yet. Maybe I’ll go half-way, then decide. I think if I were to go grey, it would be good to chop it off first. Back to you, it really does look great.

  110. Navhelowife

    Love it. Love it. Love it.

  111. laura

    Normally I read through all of your comments so whatever I write is original, As poster #110 that’s just not gonna happen tonight! Your haircut is amazing. Not because of the cut or the color or the texture, I think it’s amazing because of the smiling face underneath it. It really is just hair, but that smile; now that’s something that makes a difference!!

  112. laura

    okay so I was #111. Adjust the previous post as needed!

  113. Bryan

    Wait, you don’t own sweatpants?

    Okay, I think grey is beautiful. And curly is good as well, which is a much better adjective than POODLEY which has the red squiggles showing it isn’t even a word. I’ve got a great friend who is a couple of years younger than I am, and she’s been totally grey for years. She’s got your coloring, so I can put her hair on you and tell you that you will be just as beautiful as she is!

  114. pharmgirl

    Honestly, I didn’t notice your hair at first. I noticed your smile – and then your eyes. It’s not the hair that looks beautiful, it’s YOU that looks beautiful.

    Take no prisoners.

  115. Sheryl

    Very cute. I was growing out my gray and then one day I looked in the mirror and said, “Wow, I’m really gray. Pass the dye please.” But hey, I think grey is the new black, so more power to you.

  116. HeatherHPD

    Pharmgirl said tis perfectly. It is not the hair that we see!!!

    Just like they say about make up. When we wear make up correctly, it accents our features and is not noticeable. The perfect hair style (in my opinion) is the same as it is not the hair that you see, it is how it shows off every great feature.

  117. Lynda M O

    Short hair is the best, especially in the Atlanta summer. You did good, Mir.

    Anon can take a slow train out of town; Otto gave good directions a few posts back. What’s wrong with people anyway ?~!

  118. Nic

    LMAO- poodley!! Love it! We had a poodle years ago and while I don’t see any resemblance between y’all, I love the phrase (even if my spellcheck doesn’t). You look lovely, very pretty and more importantly, very happy.

  119. Betsy

    I LOVE it!

  120. Melissa

    You look so fabulous! I think it’s very artistic and fashionable. It makes me think Art Gallery Owner, or Jewelry Designer.
    I have almost the same hair – mine is thinner but the same curls – but I have a tiny pin head. Why does this matter (in other words, why am I telling the internets)? Because I am totally jealous of your haircut! I have tried short hair but I am tall, curvy and broad-shouldered – so short hair made me look like a badly drawn cartoon character.
    Oh, and I love your natural color – silver and all!

  121. Liza

    I think you look fantastic, and that you should update your profile pictures all over the Internet with this hot new picture. Not that the others aren’t pretty, but you look happy in this one. And it includes your favorite child. ;)

  122. Lisa R.

    You are BEAUTIFUL! Here I was expecting you to look sorta old and frumpy from your descriptions, and then in the picture is this total babe!

  123. MM

    I think you look GORGEOUS! Go, Mir!

  124. Emily

    Love, love the new ‘do! You look marvelous! But you’re right, it’s just hair so keep it short or grow it out – whatever makes you happy. :)

  125. Pamela L

    Love the Hair !! I wish my salt and pepper hair looked so good. I totally agree with Patricia. You are beautiful and over the years we have watched you transform into truly happy.

    I also agree with Otto – and Dad – you must be happy with you! They totally rock ~

  126. Cindy

    I LOVE your short hair!

  127. 3Angels&Me

    Mir – I am a long time reader from the Northeast…have never commented. I too have been watching you grow, change and your hair grow & change with you over the years. I was hesitant to read the post and see the picture because I too believe in aging gracefully (for me that has meant color since I was 18…..gray genes run rampant here!!).

    I must say I LOVE the hair!!

    You look young, stylish, spunky & HAPPY!!! There aren’t a lot of people who can pull off the really short, curly look, but man you ROCK it!!!

    Now go and update your picture in your tag – post that photo whereever you can because it is BEAUTIFUL!!!

    One last thought…..how do we get more Otto & Dads in this world??

  128. Tammy

    Wow..that cut looks fantastic! You have a beautiful smile. I am in the same boat with the curly hair that is graying. I recently had my hair done a lovely shade of red which I loved at first, but dang, is red ever hard to maintain. Now, I am dealing with the root issue. Blech. So, kudos for being brave enough to just go for it. :-)

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