Problems I can solve

By Mir
October 2, 2015

I find it very tempting, when bad things happen in the world, to become furious with everyone and everything and assume that life is hopeless and awful, etc. But I’m trying to figure out how not to do that, so much.

Yesterday Monkey called me from school because he was unwell, and I tried to focus—step by step—on all of the good things this showed me. Yay for a kid who has become able to identify problems even though his own body is often a mystery to him! Yay for ease of communication to relay that information! Yay for flexibility of schedule (me) and health insurance (us) and transportation (despite the fact that Chickadee now drives my car way more often than I do) to take him to the doctor! Yay for meds! And yay for being able to follow specific, useful steps towards making sure my child is safe and healthy, at least for now.

It helped, a little. Not much, you understand. But some.

Before all of that happened yesterday, I put up a new piece over at Alpha Mom, but then the news about the latest school shooting broke and I couldn’t see interrupting that with this. So you get it today, albeit now you get it along with the disclaimer that I’m feeling sad and helpless about the stuff I CAN’T solve, but I’m trying to cling to what I can. Like helping my kid when he needs me, or dispensing advice about how to handle mean girls. It’s not enough. But it’s what I’ve got.

1 Comment

  1. Lucinda

    The helpless stuff sucks. I live in Oregon and two people I went to high school with have now had their children at school during a school shooting on two separate occasions. I can no longer believe that there is no chance I won’t find myself in the same situation. While reassuring my kids this morning, what I really wanted to say was “if it happens while you are at school some day, don’t be a hero. Hide.” Instead I just told them it didn’t need to affect their day and was happy that for the moment, they don’t live in fear.

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