So. Um. Yeah.

By Mir
January 26, 2012

I can’t remember where I got it from… a long ago friend started it, I think… but there used to be a group of us who would follow any awkward silence or unprecedented/weird turn of conversation with, “Hey, did you catch that game? You know… the one… they play with… that ball?” None of us were sports fans, and it was basically just code for “Ooooooh, awkward. Moving on!”

That is how I’m currently feeling. Did you catch that game?

I would like to walk away from the computer for a few days or a week and not talk or write for a while, as 2012 continues to kick my ass so hard I’m beginning to shift from “2013 will be better” to “just survive until 2013.” It is rare for me to hit a patch so difficult I can’t even write my way through it, but that’s kind of where I am.

“You can’t just let the blog go dark,” Otto said to me, as we discussed the possibilities. He grinned and added, “The rumor mill will start up! People will assume we’re getting divorced!” We laughed, then, just for a second.

So: We’re fine. Otto remains my rock and my favorite. We’re all going to get through this latest set of hurdles and be okay. I believe that with every fiber of my being that controls my INTELLECTUAL brain-pieces. My EMOTIONAL brain-pieces are not faring quite so well, however, and they just need a brief break. Bear with me for a few days, please.


  1. Laura

    Take all the time you need, we’ll still be here. I hope things get better or at least stop sucking so hard. 2012 is being a real bitch.

  2. Kate in Michigan

    Being hit by a metric gopher-ton of crap all at once really takes the wind out of the old sails, doesn’t it?

    Thanks for the update, and hang on tight to Otto.

  3. heidi

    Sending good vibes your way. Will be here when you get back.

  4. Kelly

    So while I will miss your blog if you aren’t writing, totally understand if you need to take a personal break! Your personal life is more important and you know we all support you.

    Sending you some sparkly cyber hugs.

  5. Carmen

    xoxoxo, Mir. I’m right there with you – 2012 has kicked my ass in a hard, hard way. I vote we skip straight to 2013.

    Hang in there, sweetie – take all the time you need and know that we will be right here, waiting for you…

    (Sorry. At least you don’t have to hear me singing that terrible, terrible song!)

  6. Patricia

    Wait, I thought *I* was your favorite!!!!

    Take a moment and just breathe.

  7. Kellie

    I know life is handing you and your family a crapton of well…crap lately – and I understand that you need to take some time to yourself to get things together. We’re here for you when you get back – life away from the keyboard is ALWAYS more important than what happens between electrons.

    Sending you lots of big hugs, and calorie free electronic chocolate…because chocolate fixes everything….right?

  8. Navhelowife

    Oh my. Sending you virtual hugs, and cups of tea and all that. Remember to take care of yourself. I had high hopes for 2012 too, but I think I’ll just focus on tomorrow instead.
    Anything I can do, just email!

  9. RuthWells

    Take all the time you need. We’ll be here when you come back.


  10. divrchk

    Big hugs and take care of you and yours.

  11. Megan

    Yup. What They ^ said. Bright women hang around here, and every single one of ’em is holding you and yours in their thoughts.

  12. Varda (SquashedMom)

    I’m right here with you in the ass-kicked year so far. Hope it gets better for both of us. Big hugs. (An no, NOT “Big bugs” which is what I clumsy-typed at first and nearly sent off to you – doh!)

  13. MomCat

    I’ll be thinking of you and will be here when you get through this. Warm, fuzzy hugs!

  14. Mary Fran

    I’m sorry that life is sucky hairy donkey balls for you. We’ll be here, waiting with bells on, for you. In the meantime, I’m going to start the rumor that you’re pregnant. Which, knowing your medical history, is a *really* good one to start. Miracle conception! Second coming! Maybe the Mayans are right! *hope I made you at least grimace, if not giggle*

  15. Jenn

    Love you, man. Will absolutely be here when you get back. In the meantime, prayers and virtual hugs.

  16. Ellen

    When I first read about how bad 2012 was being for you, I mistakenly thought to myself, “Thank goodness my year is looking pretty decent.” Woops, tempted the fates. Now, it seems my sister – 52 has advanced cancer in her liver and lungs, and possibly other places, my dad’s Alzheimer’s has gotten worse, my mom has built a giant steel fence around herself for protection, and the list goes on. I am afraid to even say this, but I’m glad I at least have an “Otto.” Crossing fingers…hoping I didn’t just jinx that.

  17. Leslie

    Aw, Mir. I hate to hear this. I have a friend who has continually hit shit in 2012 as well. Hold on tight to Otto. Eventually, I swear, you guys will make it to the other side of this, whatever “this” is. We’ll all be here when you get back, and you’ll be as pretty as ever! :)

  18. The Other Laura

    Sending a handful of prayers your way…

  19. Saskia

    We’ll be here, you just take your time.

  20. Diane

    ((hugs)) If anyone tells you “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”, go ahead and kick their ass. It may not help resolve any issues, but will help relieve some stress and make you feel better for a minute or two.

    If you haven’t already seen it, Joshilyn gives you a nice shout-out in the acknowledgements for A Grown-up Kind of Pretty. =)

  21. Kady

    Take as long as you need. We’ll be here when you’re ready to be back. Sending good vibes your way in the meantime. Take care.

  22. Arina

    Thinking of you, and sending hugs your way.

  23. Em

    I’m not going anyplace. I’ll just wait here and make good things happen with my positive mojo (it is really just cranberry juice and vodka). First round is on me and we’ll all toast to Mir’s continued success in putting one foot in front of the other. I hope things turn a corner soon and really REALLY awesome stuff is around it.

  24. Alison C

    Hugs for everyone

  25. Jenn

    Hang in there! We’re all pulling for you and we’re not going anywhere.

  26. Headless Mom

    Take your time. Most of us non-asshats understand that your family comes first. The rest don’t matter. hugs.

  27. el-e-e

    It’s sort of sad you have to request this, but of course we understand. No pestering, we promise. Hope you feel better soon. Maybe sleep today. It’s gross out anyway (at least west of you in Atl).

  28. ladybug

    Your public will wait (although I’m glad to hear it’s not a divorce as I also enjoy Otto’s occasional guest-spots). It gets tiring to have to pick yourself up and plod on again and again, but as there have been good times before, so there shall be good times again. Plus, you’re pretty!

  29. Maria

    Take care of yourself and your family

  30. joaaanna

    Do what you have to do. We’ll be here when you are ready to return. Breathe and know you are very loved.

  31. diane

    Per usual, you and Otto are too cute. Glad you have each other. :)
    You are without a doubt one of my favorite bloggers and I look forward to your posts here and at OOC (I say not to pressure you, but just to let you know how much you are loved). But you gotta take care of you and yours first. We’ll be here when you’re ready.

  32. birchsprite

    Awww thinking of you Missus!

  33. Jen

    I’ve been there too. See: most of 2010 and 2011. Just…screw it all and take care of you and yours.

  34. Stimey

    You and me both, friend. Love to you and wishes that you come through to the other side soon. Hang in there.

  35. Jean

    Mir, take your time…love you. Stuff comes our way and can throw us for a loop!

  36. bonuela

    but at least you are pretty and those are fabulous shoes!!

  37. Karen W

    Sorry you seem to be buried under a buttload of unfortunate circumstances. Speaking of buttloads, did you know that they are actually real?
    A butt-load is a unit of measure equal to about 6 seams which is roughly 450 gallons. Let us know when we can grab our pails and help you out from underwater.

  38. Sheryl

    I’m so sorry you’re having such a rough time. Take your time, and we’ll be thinking of you in your absence.

  39. Caroline

    Will be right here waiting for you, take al the time you need. Would you like me to hold your hand while we wait? I can do that too.

  40. Kim

    Wishing you well and, for the record, I totally believe March is going to be a great month for you!

  41. Katherine

    Sending you much wine, chocolate and hope that things look better soon!

  42. ann(i)eb

    We are here.

  43. Lissa

    Just feel the love & take care of yourself. We’ll be here when you’re ready.

  44. Lucinda

    Take the time you need. Your followers will wait. We all care about you. Prayers and love being sent.

  45. Dawn

    Drowning in a buttload of crap here too…sending love to you and yours.

  46. Amy @ Binkytowne

    2012 can suck it.Wishing you a few days curled in a blanket with licorice and a box of bon bons. Did I tell you that your hair looks really pretty right now?

  47. Arnebya

    We’ll be here when you’re ready/able to return. Of that there is no doubt.

    Much strength to you dealing with 2012’s utter bullshit.

  48. Jenn

    We will be here when you feel better. Sending good thoughts your way.

  49. Mom2trplts

    Many moons ago I followed roughly twelve bloggers daily, enjoying the musings of family life; following their ups and downs. Then I realized I had enough drama in my own life and decided to follow just two ~ because I enjoyed the skill in which they were able to make me laugh and often cry at the same time, and most of all make me really care. I have followed you in the past, I read you now, and I remain loyal to you for the future. Take care of yourself most of all.

  50. Petunia

    Chocolate and bacon and hugs and prayers for you.

  51. elizabeth

    awkward internet hugs, chocolate and wine for you

    I hope things turn around soon. Take a break from us, we’d rather you take care of yourself and your family first. (as if can I speak for your the comment-ers that I’ve never met)

  52. Karate Mom

    Bearing. Praying. Hoping that whatever is going on will pass swiftly for you all.

  53. HG

    Take care, sweetie.

  54. RinNC

    Bearing with you, for you, and all over you. Hugs.

  55. Sherri

    Your family is in my thoughts.

  56. Karen R.

    Grab all of the support you need, take care of yourself, and please come back when you are ready. Your fans and cheering section will be waiting.

  57. Jill W.

    Sorry to hear you are going through a rough patch. I will keep you in my prayers.

  58. Andrea

    I wanted to Poor Little Bunny you the last time you mentioned how shitty the year has been already, and then I wanted to share something with you, but the only link on youtube that looked like what I wanted also looked like it might be a virus in disguise, so I chickened out. Anyway! If you guys haven’t seen Gnomeo & Juliet yet, you might want to watch it. (I was resistant to this movie, but ended up glad the kids forced me into it)
    The bunnies made this movie for me. They are Poor Little Bunnies, but they also put on Braveheart warpaint and angry eyebrows and get mean. And they are SO CUTE when they do it. Whenever I get tired of wearing my angry eyebrows, I like to think of the bunnies. They don’t make it all better, but they might make you giggle.
    Take care, lean on each other! Praying/Hoping/FingerCrossing for you all.

  59. JP

    Don’t you just hate when eveything implodes at once? Sorry your life is craptastic right now, just keep breathing. We’ll be here. Oh, and your hair looks very pretty!

  60. Traci

    Of course take all the time in the world. You owe us *nothing*. We are so grateful for all you do share with us and realize it is a privilege to read your musings and insights. Please don’t ever feel obligated to blog. We’re here to support you — not to add to your burden! We only wish the best for you.

    Sending good thoughts and hugs.
    Hope you feel the collective love from all of us being sent your way!

  61. erika


  62. Sandra Tayler

    I’m here every day, though I don’t speak up often. I’ll miss reading your posts, but I completely understand the need to step away and acquire space to sort it all out. Best wishes to you all. I’ll be here when ever you come back.

  63. Aimee

    2012 is NOT my favorite, at least not so far. Take the time you need, of course. I’m pulling for all of you. {{hugs}}

  64. Frank

    You do what you gotta do. I view this blog as kind of your therapy outlet (which is kinda how it started, yes?). With that in mind, when you are ready, we will be here.. Dont ever feel so obligated that it needs more than a few seconds thought to take time from this to do what you need to do. You ‘paying’ jobs? those you handle as needed. this one? we’ll still be here.

    Now… go counter punch that bass-turd 2012 into submission…

  65. elz

    Big hugs. You know I think you’re the greatest.

  66. pam


  67. cheryl

    You’re so pretty.

  68. jodifur

    You’ve been there for me more times than I can count. I’m an email away. Love and hugs.

  69. Nelson's Mama

    Sending peace, love and good karma your way!

    Cannot send local product via UPS or USPS. However am willing to meet via interstate highway with said product if that will assist in anyway ;-)

  70. E's Mommy

    Ugh. Sorry life sucks hairy donkey balls lately. I’ll be sending good thoughts your way. It seems like your family is due for some good stuff to happen soon. Hopefully within the next few days. Or hours.

  71. Tenessa

    I hope things take an upswing soon. I’ll miss you while you’re gone, but will totally still be here whenever you come back. **hugs** (in a totally non-stalker way, of course)

  72. Crisanne

    Much love to you, Mir.

  73. Crista

    Take care of yourself and your family. We’ll be here when you get back. And praying for you in the meantime.
    Thank you for checking in, even when you didn’t want to. *hugs*

  74. Katie in MA

    Take as much time as you need – you don’t want to force the bloggy action and then have it stop being (one of) your soft place(s) to land. You know what you need to do better than anyone. We’re here for you now, we’ll be here when you get back, and we’ll be here sending you happy thoughts during all the time in between.

  75. Mara

    You’ve no idea how many people “out there” are rooting for you and your family, Mir. I can’t be the only dedicated reader that almost never comments, there’s probably loads more. Take all the time you want, and try to feel our invisible, but genuine, support!

  76. TC

    Love you. Do what you need to do. We’re here when you need us. (Hopefully that sounded supportive and not stalkerish and weird from someone you’ve never laid eyes on. It was meant to be the former.)

  77. Amy

    As per a quick review of the previous comments, we obviously love you. Like a lot. Take all the time you need. We’ll all be here when you come back. And at the worst if we don’t hear from you for a couple of days, we’ll just imagine that you’ve swooped up by Broadway after they got wind of your Vagina Monologue practices.

  78. Annie

    You look so pretty. What a great hair day you are having.
    And Otto was right, it the blog went dark, we would have worried.
    See you on the other side

  79. Natasha

    I will miss having your posts to look forward to for a while, but I can’t really cast any stones in that direction, now can I?

    I love you, I love your family, and I hope that 2012 has a big Hail Mary planned for later in the game.

  80. Lara

    Aww. So sorry to hear that Mir. Really hoping this year turns around for you soon. Life. Is. Hard. Alcohol and chocolate helps :) Hugs.

  81. kapgaf

    You own the blog, the blog doesn’t own you and nor do your readers. Of course we care – we wouldn’t bother to come here if we didn’t – but I for one am prepared to wait as long as it takes and offer an e-mail address to cry on if wanted/required.

  82. Christine

    We will wait. I second the vote for a Hail Mary pass to right all that is wrong and let you exhale!

  83. Emily

    Hang in there, and take your time. In your honor, I’ll even try to be productive during the time I normally check your blog, rather than giving into the winter-blahs and just grabbing the nearby bag of gummy worms. So, piled-up dishes, here I come! :)

  84. Paul

    I certainly will miss reading you while you are gone. That being said, you need to do what is right for you. I know life is full of enough stress without the pressure of trying to write a clever blog post on top of it. Please, take your time. Your readers will be patiently waiting for you when you return.

  85. Heather

    Sending hugs and good thoughts and whatever else you may need <3

  86. Karen

    I wish I had better words, mine just keep sounding corny here. Thinking of you, hoping things turn around for the better in ever possible way, for all of you.

  87. PopC

    Not to worry. I will continue to check on you everyday – 5 days per week – for the next 30 to 60 days before even considering giving up and deleting your entry in my favorites list.

  88. Jan in Norman, OK


    Take all the time you need. You are worth waiting for.

  89. Tracy B

    Oh Mir…I’m so sorry life is handing you crap right now. Hang in there and trust in our Lord, he will pick you up and carrying you through it. I’ll be checking back day to day and see how you are doing. And I’ll continue to pray for you and yours as well. Don’t give up on your blog….it really is OUR life line. :)

  90. laura

    I have an old black sweater and some really warm slippers you can borrow if you need to hunker down in comfort.

  91. parodie

    We’ll wait. Hugs and love to the whole family.

  92. Jessica

    Hugs and prayers to you for peace of mind. I am so glad you have an Otto to talk to and just lean on when you need to. Mine is a Neal, but he’s the most amazing thing in my life most of the time. :) (Hey, my nickname isn’t Jinx for nothin’.)

  93. Jeanie

    I wish you well, Mir. We’re all here pulling for you.

  94. Stephanie

    I’m sorry, Mir. I hope the tough times are in the rearview, very very soon.

  95. Kathy

    Dear Otto …
    Thank you for being such a good person! PLEASE keep it up, okay?!

    all Mir’s readers

  96. Chris

    I’m with you Mir about the 2013 thingy. Then I thought, wait, it is only January I will just will this shit away. So, come February it will all be good! I am counting on it! The rest of the year will be “rockin” cannot wait! It will all be good. I believe, I believe, Ha ha…Seriously, no place to go but up. I for one am moving on up. Join me! :)

  97. erma

    We will all wait, and we are all sending love.
    Take as long as you need to start writing here again.

  98. Trish

    yours is my favorite blog…i’ll be here when you get back. don’t forget to take care of you.

  99. Beth in IA

    Take care of yourself and come back when you are up to it. Prayers and good thoughts for you and your family, Mir. Hoping it helps a wee bit (or a lot!) to know that people from all over are lifting you guys up.

  100. Mary

    From somebody who’s getting their own behind kicked this year, I’m rooting for you. Somebody’s got to turn out ok in 2012, right?

  101. Liza

    I wish I could help.

  102. Steph

    Be gentle with yourself, and take all the time you need. We’ll be here.

  103. Theresa

    Yours is my favorite blog. Of course we will all wait just as long as you need us to. Sending good thoughts, big hugs, and positive energy your way for 2012 to get so much better for you.

  104. Sarah Moore

    Praying for you and your family. I get needing some time; 2012 has hit hard enough to knock me off my feet, too.

  105. JMH

    Prayers for all of you. Hang in there and take all of the time you need :)

  106. Kailani

    Have some tea and gluten-free cookies…and BACON. Watch some mindless TV. Cuddle with Monkey, read with Chickie, giggle with Otto, rub on Licorice, call your dad and know that we will all be here thinking of you, praying for you, and waiting with bated breath for your return!

  107. liv

    gosh but it sucks being a grown up sometimes. sending zen mojo your way.

  108. Katie K.

    Take care of you and yours. Will keep you in my thoughts/prayers that things turn around for you ASAP. Hope some of the bad stuff is good stuff in disguise.

  109. Julie in Austin (now Colorado)

    Hang in there, Sweet Mir! You are a strong and amazing woman! Best wishes for better times to come!

  110. Brigitte

    We’ll be here! I even say, when you feel up to posting, do silly Licorice stories for a bit. At least I know when it’s ME, I need to get things behind me and get some distance before I can even say anything coherent about them.
    I’ll just try to send some strengthening “vibes” your way.

  111. Another Dawn

    Is there something going around? My favourite rock is the one I could crawl under and hide until spring. We haven’t even had a particularly bad winter. Not sure why I’m in such a funk. But funked to the max I am. Huh. Whatever. Next, please!

  112. Anna

    Take your time, we’ll be making up rumors while we wait. ;)

  113. Sonia

    This post was more concerning than no post! I follow your blog and wouldn’t have thought anything of a few days off… But mentioning divorce flippantly and then not…. Much more worrisome. Hope you guys are ok. I just finished reading the children’s book Purplicious to my girls before nap time. Read it. Maybe it will make you smile.

  114. jessica fantastica

    I always say, “Soooo, how bout that local sports team?” :)

  115. Angie

    Mir, you are so pretty. I’m sorry to hear things are going badly, and I’m going to hope that January is a throw-away month so that things start looking better in February. Take all the time you need, we’ll be here when you get back! (plays Jeopardy theme song in her head while waiting)

  116. Stacy

    Instead of just trying to survive until 2013, declare that all the crap MUST be over by spring. Because really, do you want to have an entire year of crap? And, if things turn around by spring, you can just refer to this winter as “the winter that never was.” Here’s hoping and praying that things turn around for you guys quickly.

  117. Sharon

    Wishin’ and hopin’ that life takes a turn for the better soon for you and yours.

  118. Michele

    I can not tell you how much your writings comfort me for so many reasons.

  119. Chris

    I can only add my virtual hugs and that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  120. gilly

    first, sending you the warm wishes for the strenth and courage to keep going on and don’t worry about us. We’ll be here waiting patiently for when you are able to come back to us.

    Secondly, let’s not think in terms of years. i say that FEBRUARY is going to be a good month. it even has that extra day this year for oodles of more fun and happiness.

    Thirdly, all that cr-p means that there is a PONY in there, a wonderful pink polka dotted furry dancing whatever you want it to be pony. Unfortunately it seems to be a little shy and is hiding.

    Last, but certainly not least, you hair is looking very pretty today. As are you and the whole family

  121. MamaChristy

    I don’t know what to tell you, except you are pretty. XOXO

  122. Jean

    Still here and thinking of you. Wanting you to know that we will all be here, whenever it is that you get back. Take care of yourself and your family!

  123. amey kollar

    Believe it or not it is refreshing to see someone tell the honest truth of where they are at. Seems it is so much easier to put a fake smile on and say, “I’m fine”.

  124. addy

    “sooooo, how’s about those Dodgers???” ya – we know. See you when you get back.We will be here.

  125. Tricia

    Mir – we love you and know that even Internet goddesses (yes, you’re one of them) go through tough times in life that don’t make for amazing blog fodder. Hang in there and we’ll be here when you’re ready to be back.

  126. ann(i)eb

    I send you a hug. And I am still here.

  127. Angelique

    I have been chanting “2000 something or other will be my year” since 2002! I feel for you and your family. Sending strength and happiness your way.Who knows, maybe 2012 will end up being be our year. Afterall, we are just in the beginings :) Janurary has been rocky, so it can only go up.

  128. Kathy

    I’m lifting you up today! Just holding you there … hang on, friend!

    You are kind, you are smart, you are important! (now where have I heard those words before!)

    I miss you … but am so happy that you are taking care of YOU and those you LOVE!


  129. Daisy

    Hugs to you. Both of you. All of you.

  130. Hall

    Missing you…. hoping that maybe it wasn’t 2012 that was the problem, but January… and now that it’s February, things will improve. Wishing you and your family all good things and hoping you’ll return to us soon.

  131. The Mommy Therapy

    Hope taking some time is exactly what you need. Taking a break creates all sorts of mystery, which is nothing but good for everyone to love you that much more.

    Take your time, and know we are all thinking about you!

  132. ailo

    We’ll be here. Good vibes to all of you.

  133. Michele

    I can’t tell you how much I miss hearing from you. I hope everything is okay and that life gets better. Your site is the only one I check every day. I appreciate your honesty and humor and acceptance of what life deals.

  134. LizD

    You are very pretty today. I hope you find something shiny soon. I really miss you!

  135. laura

    Just checking! ‘Cause you are right below my ‘welcome to 2nd national bank” on my favorites list. Kind of like being in the neighborhood and stopping by or at least honking the horn? Take care.

  136. Stacy

    Missing you and hoping things are starting to turn around.

  137. momzen

    I keep checking back to see how you are doing. Last night at the temple, when we said this prayer, I thought of you…

    Mi sheberakh avoteinu mekor habrakha l’imoteinu
    May the Source of strength
    Who blessed the ones before us
    Help us find the courage
    To make our lives a blessing,
    And let us say: Amen.
    Mi sheberakh imoteinu mekor habrakha l’avoteinu
    Bless those in need of healing With refuah shleima:
    The renewal of body,
    The renewal of spirit,
    And let us say: Amen

    Mostly I lurk & love… but I just wanted to tell you that I hope you are hanging in there. I (along with lots of others) are rooting for you.

  138. Jean

    Momzen, that is the most beautiful prayer I have ever heard. And so so appropriate for Mir. Thinking of you Mir and praying that you find strength from the Lord and peace in your heart.

  139. Steph

    Checking in daily with you, and just want you to know that whatever is happening, your readers will all be back. Still praying.

  140. jen

    just letting you know i’m thinking you and hoping things get better. miss reading you, but totally understand!

  141. HG

    Just want to let you know that you are in my thoughts.

  142. HPD

    Maybe it is time to allow yourself to close this chapter of your life. The chapter of blogging and sharing all your feelings and family experiences. I selfishly hope that it is not the case as I have enjoyed your blog since sometime in 2005!

  143. Susan

    Another internet friend here checkin’ in on you! Miss you and hope you can feel all the good wishes & support being sent your way!

  144. Emily

    Just stopping by to say I’m thinking about you and your family and hope you’re doing well.

  145. Katie in CA

    Just checking in, like all the others. Praying for you and your family. And for a dog for Monkey.

  146. Karen

    Like others, I miss you bunches and hope you’re doing ok. Hang in there.

  147. Kailani

    Hope you are well. Missing you here.
    Hurry home.

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