Love’s good to the last drop

Just a quickie, today, as I’m up to my eyeballs in work and we’ve also got house guests.

My dad and stepmom pulled up last night about fifteen minutes before the kids’ bedtime, which of course meant there was much running around and waving of arms and hugs and kisses and hollering—and the kids were pretty excited, too. We have all sorts of fun things planned, and these visits always make me realize how time is passing, without my noticing, as I watch my parents marvel over how tall the kids have grown and how grown-up they’re looking.

This morning I was up and out with the kids, volunteering at school, finishing up, and back home before my dad even got up. Which is fine—they’re on vacation, and it makes me feel less guilty about having to go do things (and work), anyway. Today we’ll laze about and conserve out strength (heh) until the kids get home from school, and then we’ll run around with them for a while.

If you’d asked me before they got here what my favorite part of these visits is, I would’ve responded without hesitation that it’s watching my parents interact with my kids. There’s something about watching your parent be a grandparent that’s unlike anything else; plus, I do love watching the kids’ eyes bug out when I remind them that Hey, that’s MY Daddy, and let me tell you about something dumb he did when I was a kid!

This morning, though, I realized that there’s another thing I absolutely love on these trips: Having coffee and grown-up chat in the morning. My father is utterly incapable of getting his own coffee—which is amusing in its own right—and so my stepmom or I will “work the coffeemaker” for him and pour him a cup, and then we’ll sit at the kitchen table and he’ll tell me about people I went to high school with whom he happened to run into around town, or reports on those people from their parents (whom he happened to run into). I, in turn, will tell him whom I’ve reconnected with on Facebook, who’s had a baby and who moved across the country, who is happy and who is still searching.

(I even let him use my favorite mug.)

It’s not that we can’t (or don’t) have those conversations from afar, it’s that they’re infinitely better over the crumbs the kids left behind from their breakfast.

Happy Love Thursday, everyone. I hope you have a bottomless mug of coffee love to share when the need arises!

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55 Responses to “Love’s good to the last drop”

  1. 1
    Barbara October 16, 2008 at 10:19 am #

    His glasses are exactly like mine! Is that a good thing?

    Nice post. I miss my Dad-already-in-heaven, but will go see Mom this afternoon.

  2. 2
    Megan October 16, 2008 at 10:20 am #

    Happy family visit – enjoy every crumb!

  3. 3
    StephLove October 16, 2008 at 10:21 am #

    Oh goodness, it’s a picture of Mir’s dad. I don’t think I’ve ever seen one before. Hi, Mir’s Dad!

  4. 4
    MomCat October 16, 2008 at 10:23 am #

    Letting someone use your very favorite mug — that’s love. I don’t share mine often. :) Thanks for the kind wishes!

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    Sara October 16, 2008 at 10:24 am #

    I am doing the opposite of your parents and going to their house for a good visit. My kids have already started their “are-we-there-yets” and we’re not even leaving until tomorrow! I can’t wait either. It’s been too long. Enjoy your time!

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    Rachel October 16, 2008 at 10:26 am #

    Awwwww… sweet post! I’ve got to go call my dad now! = ) Thanks for the picture; now when I write in Mir’s Dad & Monkey for President/VP on my ballot, I’ll know what dad looks like! = )

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    liz October 16, 2008 at 10:42 am #

    You have his eyes!

  8. 8
    Susan October 16, 2008 at 10:51 am #

    Enjoy your visit. Drink the whole pot.

  9. 9
    tori October 16, 2008 at 10:57 am #

    Your dad is adorable.

  10. 10
    Anna October 16, 2008 at 11:10 am #

    I like how he’s posing in a Wilson (from Home Improvement) fashion. And I’d never heard the story of your coffee cup.

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    Half Assed Kitchen October 16, 2008 at 11:31 am #

    That is quite nice. I miss those kinds of conversations with my parents. Perhaps when all their grandchildren are a little older we can have chats like that too.

  12. 12
    Deb October 16, 2008 at 11:33 am #

    Beautiful post. Enjoy time with your dad!!

  13. 13
    Mike Golch October 16, 2008 at 11:48 am #

    great post.I hope that you have an enjoyable time visiting.

  14. 14
    Lindy October 16, 2008 at 11:56 am #

    You dad looks kind of like Ben Stein from the coffee mug up to me.

  15. 15
    Holly October 16, 2008 at 11:59 am #

    Hey! That mug has a chickie and a monkey on it! thanks for the post! I too, love my father like crazy and your post actually made me tear up a little, thanks!

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    Katie in MA October 16, 2008 at 12:23 pm #

    Your dad looks *exactly* as I’ve always pictured him. Something about all the love and happiness not-quite-hiding in his eyes. (You *do* have his eyes!) I’m so happy you have your family home to visit – enjoy every minute!

    Happy Love Thursday!

  17. 17
    Jenny October 16, 2008 at 12:38 pm #

    Well, this is weird, since I’ve never met either of you, but without having read anything I thought, “that’s GOT to be Mir’s Dad.” Holy Family Resemblance, Batman!

    Have fun this weekend!

  18. 18
    Lori October 16, 2008 at 12:49 pm #

    When you started a Love Thursday post with “just a quickie today,” I was expecting it to be about…well, something else. Ahem. Anyhoo, enjoy your visit!

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    Scottsdale Girl October 16, 2008 at 1:01 pm #

    Awwwwwwwww, he reminds me of my daddy. Not in looks but in demeanor, if one can get a sense of demeanor from a photo. I suppose one can since i just proclaimed it.
    Have fun with the kids and grands DAD!

  20. 20
    Caroline in MA October 16, 2008 at 1:13 pm #

    I need to go call my dad, too…
    Thanks for the post Mir!

  21. 21
    tara October 16, 2008 at 1:42 pm #

    He sounds a lot like my dad. My mom waits on my dad too. My dad loves to talk to people and get their story.

  22. 22
    dgm October 16, 2008 at 1:45 pm #

    That’s sure sweet. I wish I had that with my dad, but every time he visits or I visit we have to drink from separate pots because the stuff he drinks is NASTY and light beige and out of a can. I prefer the ultra dark freshly ground overpriced beans. But we still enjoy each other’s company!

  23. 23
    daysgoby October 16, 2008 at 1:59 pm #

    Oh, there’s nothing better than that….Enjoy your visit, Dad-O’Mir!

  24. 24
    Jennifer Suarez October 16, 2008 at 2:00 pm #

    I.am.stealing.that.mug

  25. 25
    Randi October 16, 2008 at 2:05 pm #

    Wow – from the nose up, he looks like you!! Minus the graying hair, of course :)

  26. 26
    angela October 16, 2008 at 2:27 pm #

    You look so much like your dad!! Is it weird that I think you have his eyebrows? :-P

  27. 27
    Nancy R October 16, 2008 at 2:48 pm #

    Yay! Dad, live and in person!!

  28. 28
    Nancy R October 16, 2008 at 2:49 pm #

    Oh, and watching my parents (and inlaws) be parents is one of my very favorite things of having kids.

  29. 29
    Nancy R October 16, 2008 at 2:49 pm #

    dur…

    watching them be GRANDparents…

  30. 30
    Sue @ My Party of 6 October 16, 2008 at 3:42 pm #

    Hello Mir’s dad! Enjoy your visit!

  31. 31
    el-e-e October 16, 2008 at 3:54 pm #

    Oh, definitely my favorite part about my parents’ visits is having coffee with them in the morning. Or late-night visits at the kitchen table — those are good, too. :) Hi, dad!

  32. 32
    Libby October 16, 2008 at 4:06 pm #

    Awww, Mir’s dad is so cute! It’s so nice to finally see what he looks like. I always enjoy the comments he leaves. And you DO look a lot like him!

  33. 33
    ChristieNY October 16, 2008 at 4:58 pm #

    Aw very sweet! Makes me miss my Dad who passed away this past Spring. Enjoy him Mir, enjoy him! <3

  34. 34
    Lisa B October 16, 2008 at 5:03 pm #

    Mir,
    Like ChristieNY, this post makes me miss my Dad who passed away 03/06. Hold him close and take it all in! Time goes by quickly. As usual, thank you for making me feel a little more and see a little more clearly….and smile!

  35. 35
    The Other Leanne October 16, 2008 at 5:09 pm #

    Where have I seen that guy before? There’s something about his eyes…

  36. 36
    Heather October 16, 2008 at 5:53 pm #

    He looks like you! Or rather, you look like him, I guess.

  37. 37
    Stephanie October 16, 2008 at 6:56 pm #

    I’m envious…..Sydneys grandparents aren’t very “grand”…they’re all pretty self absorbed…don’t bother to visit or even call her very often. Luckily, she doesn’t really “miss” what she’s never had, but I had *wonderful* grandparents, so I’m doubly sad for her and for myself.

    I sound like such a Debbie Downer, lately, don’t I? I’m sorry.

    I really just wanted to say how lucky you and your kids are. I’m glad there *are* “grand*parents, out there.

  38. 38
    Ramblin'Red October 16, 2008 at 7:54 pm #

    Awwww…..I’m somewhat jealous, but my inlaws are able to bring this essence occasionally….

  39. 39
    Wendalette October 16, 2008 at 8:38 pm #

    Awww! Hi, Mir’s Dad!

    O Pretty One, may I borrow your dad for a bit — even if only for a half-hour? Yours is SOOOOOOO much cooler than mine. My dad…lost his bearings, we’ll say. I can feel the love beaming from your dad’s eyes and it’s not even directed at me.

    Thanks for sharing your family with us here on the Internets.

  40. 40
    sara October 16, 2008 at 8:40 pm #

    I always pictured your dad looking like Alan Arkin.

  41. 41
    Kris October 16, 2008 at 9:34 pm #

    You’ve got your daddy’s eyes.

  42. 42
    Flea October 16, 2008 at 11:08 pm #

    Cu-uuute mug. Chickie with a halo, huh? Hi Mir’s dad and stepmom!!!

  43. 43
    Brigitte October 17, 2008 at 5:53 am #

    Ooh, we’re all loving your dad so much, maybe you should have blurred his face for his own protection! ;-)

    My mom isn’t very grandmotherly. She loves my daughter, but treats her more like she treated ME growing up (scolding her for things that I consider irrelevant or unimportant, etc). At least my MIL is more classic grandma, minus the baking!

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    Stefanie October 17, 2008 at 8:32 am #

    Aww!! Your dad is awesome.

    I miss my parents. I’ve been meaning to go back to visit but financially it’s been impossible. I will soon though :) Next weekend or maybe the one after.

  45. 45
    Ray October 17, 2008 at 9:13 am #

    Aaawww, How very lovely. Sometimes, relating to the parents as adults still feels novel. I enjoyed a couple days this week with my mom.

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    Amy-Go October 17, 2008 at 10:28 am #

    Have a great visit. I just got back from a visit with my parents…makes me wish this move would go ahead and happen even more!

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    ben October 17, 2008 at 10:55 am #

    This is awesome. I’m jealous, since I don’t have that kind of relationship with my parents. In fact, I can’t remember the last time they came to visit (oh, time for a pity party, heh!).

    Enjoy your visit! I’ve liberally sprinkled this comment with exclamation points, in case you were running low. I’m all about the sharing!

  48. 48
    Chris October 17, 2008 at 1:24 pm #

    What a loving post! Enjoy your folks. ;)

  49. 49
    Jillian October 17, 2008 at 3:50 pm #

    I love favorite mugs. They make things taste so much better.

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    Kailani October 18, 2008 at 7:21 am #

    You DO have his eyes!
    I totally pink puffy heart your dad.
    I think he is pretty funny and kinda insightful, too.
    Enjoy your visit!!
    k
    ps I needs me one of those mugs…;o]~

  51. 51
    Cele October 19, 2008 at 12:47 pm #

    Enjoy every minute with your dad and step mom, I miss my dad, and enjoy my time with my mother.

  52. 52
    Heidi October 19, 2008 at 3:02 pm #

    [waving madly] Hi, Mir’s Dad! I’ve always enjoyed your comments. It won’t be long before throngs (ha–I typed “thongs” the first time!) of women will be waving madly at you in public. Warn your wife.

  53. 53
    Heather.PNR October 19, 2008 at 5:43 pm #

    Watching my parents love on my kids has been one of the unexpected joys of parenthood. Enjoy the rest of your visit!

  54. 54
    Aimee October 20, 2008 at 11:12 am #

    Your dad looks like he’d be great fun to drink coffee with — he’s got a gleam in his eye! Hi, Mir’s dad!

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    Friends Talking in the Night October 21, 2008 at 11:30 am #

    I’m a new reader to your blog, which I love. Thought you’d like to see the mention I gave it: http://friendstalkinginthenight.blogspot.com/2008/10/im-not-company-i-live-here.html

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