Words I hate

I hate the word “miasma,” which is meant to describe something unpleasant, so I guess it’s just doing its job. Still. Hate it.

I also hate the word “torsion,” which comes from having once had an ovarian torsion. (Pro tip: That really hurts.)

I have issues with the word “pretty,” even though I use it all the time. I just don’t think a single word that sounds so darn perky should be so loaded. And it is, in our society. I wrote about that today for Off Our Chests, as I’m seeing the legacy of female teenage inability to see clearly unfold in front of me.

But mostly, I hate the word “relapse.” Relapse can just go screw itself sideways, thanks. [Related: Chickie is back in the hospital. I am beating myself up for letting her do all she did this weekend... maybe the trip really was too much for her, maybe she was coming down with something and didn't say anything because she wanted to go. Who knows. Moot, now, I guess.]

122 Responses to “Words I hate”

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    Alison C February 28, 2012 at 10:57 am #

    Praying for you all. Love to Chickie

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    el-e-e February 28, 2012 at 10:58 am #

    No, no, no. Do not beat yourself up. You are doing just right for her, this is not your fault. Nor hers. :( I hope she gets back home quickly this time. So sorry to hear.

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    Julie February 28, 2012 at 10:58 am #

    Don’t beat yourself up. She’ll have the memories of the weekend to cheer her up in the hospital;) Kiss her and take care of yourself! This advice from the mom of a kid who has spent LOTS of time in the hospital.

    Hope she’s better soon.

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    Randi February 28, 2012 at 11:00 am #

    Oh no! I know she’ll get better soon, though, and Julie’s right – she’ll have those victories to cheer her on!

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    Sherri February 28, 2012 at 11:01 am #

    Mir, I”m sorry to hear Chickie is back in the hospital. You are in my thoughts.

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    Frank February 28, 2012 at 11:02 am #

    Without any more detail, it seems you did right to let her have the weekend she did (she needed it), and no blame to be assigned for anything more. Thinkin about you

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    Patricia February 28, 2012 at 11:03 am #

    I’m am so sorry that she’s back in the hospital — but I PROMISE you (and back it up completely with my vast medical degrees and experience — ignore the fact I don’t have either) that you are not to blame. Maybe she overdid it a little this weekend — but trust me, she’s reliving that joy over and over during the healing process. In a way, she may have needed this little setback to have that utter joy to get her to the next level of wellness.

    On another thought, I know someone who dislikes the word “moist” to the point that she’s physically uncomfortable. Is it wrong that I take great joy in working the word “moist” into nearly every conversation? Yup, probably totally wrong — but oh, so funny.

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    Jen H. February 28, 2012 at 11:04 am #

    So sorry. Hugs all around!

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    The Other Laura February 28, 2012 at 11:04 am #

    All of you are in my thoughts and prayers.

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    MomQueenBee February 28, 2012 at 11:06 am #

    You would have never forgiven yourself if she had missed the weekend. You can (and should) forgive yourself for the relapse.

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    amy February 28, 2012 at 11:08 am #

    Aww man. That sucks. I’m so sorry she’s relapsed. Don’t blame yourself, guilt won’t help you in any way. I really hope she gets better soon. Hugs to all of you.

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    aly February 28, 2012 at 11:08 am #

    ugh– you are in our thoughts. but yes to the commenter who said the memories and victories from this past weekend were extremely important to chickadee (and to you!). it will shake out. IT HAS TO. :)

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    Mary February 28, 2012 at 11:10 am #

    Sorry to hear this, but don’t beat yourself up! Unless, of course, you have a crystal ball that predicts such setbacks, in which case… you need to share! She’ll get the rest she needs where she is and be back with you all soon, I’m sure.

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    Rachel February 28, 2012 at 11:11 am #

    Crap. Thinking of you and your family.

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    hollygee February 28, 2012 at 11:12 am #

    ((((Mir+Chickie+Monkey+Otto)))), Bless.

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    Jenn C. February 28, 2012 at 11:13 am #

    Oh, that just sucks. I’m sorry to hear she’s relapsed. Try not to beat yourself up, you have NO way of knowing what caused her to relapse or whether the weekend’s activities made a whit of difference. And she loved all those moments of victory, and she needs those too.

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    Mandy February 28, 2012 at 11:18 am #

    Ditto what hollygee (#15) said.

    Sending healing thoughts to GA.

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    Arnebya February 28, 2012 at 11:20 am #

    I know it’s moot to even say don’t be too hard on yourself. As a mom, how can you not be? We question everything we do, everything we don’t do, everything we consider doing. I’m so sorry about Chickie, sorry that she’s having to deal with so very much. My heartfelt thoughts and prayers are with you and your family for her to get better soon.

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    Genevieve February 28, 2012 at 11:26 am #

    I am so sorry — that is miserably rotten. BUT don’t second-guess yourself now — she needed this weekend, it was marvelous for her, so needed to boost her self-image and self-esteem and remind her that she is a smart, strong, hard worker who excels in so many ways.
    She might have relapsed even without this weekend, and you made the best decision you could based on the information you had. Just focus on her getting better now, and let yourself off the hook for what wasn’t your fault. And for what was very good for chickie.

    Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.

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    RebeccaL February 28, 2012 at 11:26 am #

    Prayers and hugs to you, Chickie and your whole family! Why do we as moms expect to be able to see the future and the possible consequences of all our choices for our children? Please go easy on yourself!

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    BethRD February 28, 2012 at 11:29 am #

    What everyone else said! We will be thinking of you and hoping for a quick bounce back to health.

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    Katie K. February 28, 2012 at 11:32 am #

    Shoot. So sorry. Totally not your fault, so stop that blaming stuff. I will keep your family in my prayers.

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    Lylah February 28, 2012 at 11:36 am #

    XO. Sending you strength and hope and reminding you that this is not your fault. (Also: her having a great weekend and achieving her goals is a very good thing.)

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    Jen February 28, 2012 at 11:40 am #

    Oh Chickie. :( Hugs to all of you!

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    Gennie February 28, 2012 at 11:42 am #

    So sorry to hear about Chickie. Let her know that we are all thinking of her and sending good healing thoughts. And sending supportive virtual hugs your way as well.

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    Melissa February 28, 2012 at 11:45 am #

    Sorry to hear that and hope she is recovering soon!!

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    kris February 28, 2012 at 11:49 am #

    Pfft. You are hardly worthy of the bad momma crown. And if you dislike pretty, how are you pretty, pretty Mir!?

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    Hally February 28, 2012 at 11:56 am #

    Sending all the good virtual juju I can to the Otto, Mir, Chickie, Monkey, Licorice family. Hang in there guys, you’re stronger than this…I know it!

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    deva February 28, 2012 at 12:01 pm #

    Many hugs to chickie and to you, Mir. We’re all pulling for you and your family.

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    Megan February 28, 2012 at 12:06 pm #

    So so sorry – I wish it would help to say ‘it’s NOT your fault’ but I know how hard it is to reason with the mama guilt.

    Chickie had the weekend she desperately needed, that is a sure and certain fact.

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    Leandra February 28, 2012 at 12:07 pm #

    What everybody else said, plus a double dose of don’t beat yourself up. Just think of it as a minor set-back. But what an awesome memory she has to cherish now and what an ego boost because you did let her go.

    {{hugs}}

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    Liz February 28, 2012 at 12:12 pm #

    Yes, Chickie had an awesome weekend and one that she’ll remember for, well, ever. Beating yourself up = no help, whatsoever. Get better soon, Chickie!!!

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    amanda February 28, 2012 at 12:12 pm #

    I’m so sorry, Mir. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the entire family, especially Chickie.

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    Jamie February 28, 2012 at 12:21 pm #

    Well that’s a crap sandwich! Hoping her hospital stay and recovery are a quick one. You did the right thing letting her be active and enjoy herself though. She could have ended up in the hospital again even if she’d stayed home and laid on the couch all weekend.

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    Tenessa February 28, 2012 at 12:33 pm #

    I can’t believe that the positivity she experienced last weekend is anything but good for her all around. Things happen and you can beat yourself up over it. Hug on Chickie, and tell her your internet fan club is rooting for her. <3

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    Virginia L. February 28, 2012 at 12:37 pm #

    I am so sorry to hear she is back in the Hospital. The great thing about being a Mom is the constant second guessing! If only you were perfect then she would be perfect, right :). I know you are doing your best and so is she. Just give it some more time! I will keep her and you in my prayers!

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    Rebecca February 28, 2012 at 12:39 pm #

    Chickie had a wonderfully affirming, positive weekend. If she’d stayed home, from even one thing, she may have still relapsed anyway. But she wouldn’t have had the memory of her incredible weekend to sustain her. She’ll be better soon. We’re all praying for her and I know God is listening.

    ((hugs)) to you all!!!!!!!!!!

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    Crisanne February 28, 2012 at 12:40 pm #

    Hugs, Mir. You are doing your best for her and that’s all you can ask of yourself.

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    Jenne February 28, 2012 at 12:44 pm #

    Ditto 7 (- the M.D.) 15, 19, 32 & 37. Sending love & hugs :)

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    Fairly Odd Mother February 28, 2012 at 12:45 pm #

    Oh, I am so sorry but please don’t beat yourself up about it. it sounds like it was a wonderful, memorable weekend and you are a great mom for letting her experience that. Hugs to you all.

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    liv February 28, 2012 at 12:59 pm #

    i can’t add anything to what the wise previous commenters have said — i’m sorry to hear chickadee’s back in the hospital, but stop beating yourself up. i’ll be praying for a speedy hospital release for chickadee.

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    Crista February 28, 2012 at 1:04 pm #

    Ack! Ovarion torsion! Let us never speak those words again! *shudder* ;) (Speaking from experience here, *if* you couldn’t tell)

    I hope Chickie is feeling better soon. I will be keeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers.

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    Javamom February 28, 2012 at 1:07 pm #

    You know what I think? When she was out of the hospital and wanted to live life, you helped her do this. Even though you feel badly now, and are second guessing if it was too much. We all have these self-doubts. Still, the child will remember her fantastic weekend and the things she DID do, and that is the important part.

    Hoping things will improve soon, and all the best to your daughter’s health.

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    jwg February 28, 2012 at 1:09 pm #

    Stop it right now! I don’t know what is wrong with Chickie but it sounds like you are in for the long haul and beating yourself up every time somethning goes wrong isn’t good for either of you. She had an unforgettable weekend and you gave her that gift. We all make choices as parents and if you limit those choices to only what is safe you are going to lose her trust in your ability to chooose what is best and she will miss out on learning how to make the choices when she is older. You are a fantastic parent and there are lots of us here to whip you into shape when you forget that.

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    KGP February 28, 2012 at 1:12 pm #

    Poor kid and poor you. Hoping that she comes home again soon.

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    Alison February 28, 2012 at 1:13 pm #

    hugs and healing all around. I’m glad she had her adventures and successes over the weekend!

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    Heather February 28, 2012 at 1:17 pm #

    So, so sorry Mir. Love and prayers coming your way. Try not to get your exercise kicking yourself and jumping to the conclusion that you should have known. No one could have known. At least she has the thrill of victory to remember long after all this crap has passed. And it WILL pass. Keeping the faith and sending the hugs for you.

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    Melinda February 28, 2012 at 1:18 pm #

    Sending healing thoughts for your girl and peace to her momma and worried family.

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    RuthWells February 28, 2012 at 1:25 pm #

    I’m so sorry to hear this, but I have ABSOLUTE FAITH that all will be well. Hang in there, and much love coming your way.

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    Leah February 28, 2012 at 1:26 pm #

    Praying for her!

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    Amy February 28, 2012 at 1:28 pm #

    You know that Chickie would have been majorly upset to miss this past weekend. Can you just imagine the angst if she hadn’t gone?!? You did what was best at the time and look at the memories that she was able to make. You are an awesome mom and always have been. I just hope some day when I have children that I will be half as awesome as you are!

    Also, much love to you and yours. You all are in my prayers!

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    Jackie February 28, 2012 at 1:28 pm #

    Oh Mir,

    I’m so sorry your sweet girl is back in the hospital. The Dr.’s are the one’s who gave ther the ok to get out and about. You shouldn’t be so hard on yourself. I understand it but still don’t think you should be. I will continue to pray for all of you.

    Jackie

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    Raquel February 28, 2012 at 1:30 pm #

    I am thinking of you and your family. Healing vibes to all. Sucks. :(

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    Chuck February 28, 2012 at 1:37 pm #

    Very sorry to hear the bad news about Chickadee – hope the stay is very brief and she’s back home soon. I agree, relapses suck.

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    Little Bird February 28, 2012 at 1:42 pm #

    Relapse is indeed a terrible word. I will keep you and yours in my thoughts (happy, healing thoughts!).

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    Susan February 28, 2012 at 1:49 pm #

    ((hugs))

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    Jenn February 28, 2012 at 1:56 pm #

    Relapse is an awful word and I’m very sorry it happened to Chickie. Just remember relapses also happen to girls who sit on the couch and stare at the ceiling. Hang in there! We’re all pulling for you.

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    kris February 28, 2012 at 2:04 pm #

    Don’t beat your self up – like everyone else has said, there is no way a weekend full of joy is a bad thing. Best wishes to Chickadee for a speedy recovery – the whole internetz is rooting for you!

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    The Mommy Therapy February 28, 2012 at 2:08 pm #

    On no! So sorry Mir.

    Everyone here makes excellent points though, there is no blame to place. I’ll be thinking about your sweet Chickadee and the whole family. Hopefully this is a quick stay and she is on the mend again soon.

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    Heather February 28, 2012 at 2:12 pm #

    Oh Mir, I’m so sorry Chickie’s not doing so well, again…there’s just no way you could have known this would happen, or even if all the activity had ANYTHING to do with her “relapse”. (That word, btw, made me say a few not-so-kosher words, too.) Chickie is strong and smart and awesome, and I am praying with you that she kicks this thing’s butt!!

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    Jean February 28, 2012 at 2:15 pm #

    So sorry, Mir. Hoping and praying for a quick recovery and release.

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    Lara February 28, 2012 at 2:38 pm #

    Mir, so sorry to hear that Chickie is back in the hospital. And as a mother to a child with a rare disease, believe me when I say I know this is easier said than done, but don’t beat yourself up. Chickie had an amazing weekend. You made the best choice at the time given your lack of a crystal ball ;). I hope she recovers and comes home quickly. Hugs to all.

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    Lucinda February 28, 2012 at 3:02 pm #

    You have to live your life. When you are really sick and then you feel better, you have to live even if it means getting sick again. I know because I have been living it for 15 years now. There isn’t just physical health to consider but emotional health as well. Chickie needed this past weekend and all the success that came with it. She will get better. This won’t last forever. Don’t beat yourself up for living life.

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    Kim February 28, 2012 at 3:08 pm #

    I’m sorry to hear that Chickie is back in. But “happy” goes a long way towards healing, so maybe this weekend actually will make it easier for her to bounce back. Lots of healing energy coming your way (no prayers out of respect for Chickie’s atheism). I hope things get better soon!

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    Kathy February 28, 2012 at 3:32 pm #

    I’m so so sorry to hear this. I can’t imagine how hard it must be to see your child sick nevermind in hospital. But you can’t by any stretch of the imagination feel bad about your weekend with her…it is so not your fault and I’m sure though physically it may have been a lot for her, mentally it more than made up for it. Hang in there.

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    {sue} February 28, 2012 at 3:57 pm #

    More prayers, Mir. For all of you.

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    Sheila February 28, 2012 at 4:00 pm #

    Know what word I like? Resilience. I like how it sounds and I like how it looks, and I like that it will apply in this situation. I’m sorry you’ve had a setback but I know you and Chickie are nothing if not resilient. Best wishes to you both.

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    jen_alluisi February 28, 2012 at 4:14 pm #

    Oh, Mir. So, so sorry – but Chickie will be all fine and good. She is an excellent, amazing kid, and having a great family around her to support her will help her even more. Prayers and happy thoughts that she’ll be home again oh-so-soon.

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    All Adither February 28, 2012 at 4:16 pm #

    Damn it! I’m sorry she’s back in the hospital.

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    Grace February 28, 2012 at 4:31 pm #

    I’m sorry, but I am still happy that Chickie was able to do so much so well this weekend. Please don’t beat yourself up. Praying for you all.

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    Jeanie February 28, 2012 at 5:12 pm #

    So very sorry to hear that. Praying for wellness for Chickie. She did have an awesome weekend.

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    elz February 28, 2012 at 5:30 pm #

    Don’t beat yourself up. You know that Chickie needed a good weekend like last weekend, even if it plum wore her out. She needs those little victories to know that everything will eventually be OK. Hugs & prayers, always.

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    QueenMum February 28, 2012 at 6:00 pm #

    Oh, I am so sorry to hear Chickie is back in the hospital. I am praying for her and your whole family during this time, it really stinks! Don’t beat yourself up. You made the best decision possible last weekend based on the information available at the time. Period. She had an awesome weekend, remember that and bask in it.

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    KarenP February 28, 2012 at 6:14 pm #

    Sorry to hear she is back in the hospital. Hope her stay is short and she is home soon. Glad she had a fun weekend. Don’t be hard on yourself.

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    TC February 28, 2012 at 6:14 pm #

    Boo relapse. Yay you. Stop the second guessing.

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    Karen February 28, 2012 at 6:25 pm #

    Being a parent is so very, very hard. You and your family are in my thoughts.

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    liz February 28, 2012 at 6:38 pm #

    Bleh, I’m so sorry she’s back in the hospital, but I am SO HAPPY for her and the rest of you that she did all that she accomplished over the weekend. I hope she’s better soon and that the rest of you are holding up okay. ((((hugs))))

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    Jenny February 28, 2012 at 7:36 pm #

    If you’ll please pardon the swearing: You are a kick-ass mom, and she is a kick-ass Chick, and I think there would’ve been a mutiny if you’d tried to keep her out of anything. I hope she feels better and gets home fast.

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    Lise!" February 28, 2012 at 7:51 pm #

    I’m sorry she’s back in the hospital. But let’s all chant together, “It’s not Mir’s fault!” Praying that she’ll be home again soon.

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    Karen February 28, 2012 at 8:21 pm #

    OH, no you don’t. SUCKS, the relapse. Your fault? Hell no. What a wonderful weekend, can you imagine having her stay home for ANY of that???… You had no idea. SO, onward. Hoping this is a blip on the radar, and she’ll be home again shortly.

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    Pam February 28, 2012 at 8:43 pm #

    Thoughts and prayers are going out to your family for Chickadee’s speedy recovery.

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    Kailani February 28, 2012 at 9:40 pm #

    Crap!! So sorry to hear she has had a setback. NOT your fault!
    Ice cream all around! This too shall pass.
    K

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    Ariel February 28, 2012 at 9:43 pm #

    I’m sorry she’s back in the hospital. :( I’m sending healing vibes her way.
    On the word pretty… on the off chance you haven’t heard this poem, which I listen to all the time, as a mother of two daughters…
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M6wJl37N9C0

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    Navhelowife February 28, 2012 at 10:00 pm #

    Prayers to you. While I adore the internet and your blog, it’s times like these that I wish I was closer in real life so that I could help you with the practical needs. But instead, know that prayers are lifted up for you.

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    Wendy February 28, 2012 at 10:17 pm #

    So incredibly sorry to hear that Chickie is back in the hospital. It is definitely not your fault, she needed this weeked. Sending massive prayers your way.

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    Sarah February 29, 2012 at 12:35 am #

    Praying. I’m so sorry. Don’t go down the Mommy self-blame road.

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    Mandee February 29, 2012 at 9:18 am #

    Dammit all. So sorry for you and Chickie. Hope she’s back in fighting form soon! I’ve always been sickly and it’s completely frustrating. It’s times like last weekend that get you through the down times. Hang in there.

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    Emmy's Mom February 29, 2012 at 10:10 am #

    double crap. hang in there (cause you need to). sending lots of thoughts of health and healing your way.

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    Gwen February 29, 2012 at 10:23 am #

    Crap. Dammit. So sorry. Not your fault. Hugs for all of your family that want them.

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    Kim February 29, 2012 at 10:53 am #

    This weekend was all about Chickadee being Chickadee. Not the sick Chickadee, not the Chickadee that can’t meet her (jerky) teachers’ expectations, not the Chickadee who feels like she won’t ever be able to do anything again. Nope, this weekend was about being herself, letting her nerdling flag fly high, oh, and the by the way, kicking some serious ass along the way. That has got to be some pretty powerful therapy right there.
    I am so, so sorry that your family is having to go through this. Sorry that things are so scary. But this weekend, Mir, this weekend was a lifetime memory smile. Nothing can ever take that away from her.
    You made the best decision you could, given the cricumstances you were under. That’s all any of us can do, and none of us gets to know what would’ve happened if we had chosen the other way. Be gentle with yourself. There’s a lot going on with you right now.
    You are beautiful,.inside and out, and so is your family. Stay strong, all of you, especially Chickie.

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    Aimee February 29, 2012 at 10:58 am #

    dammit. I’m so sorry to hear this. I’m sending out a mighty big prayer for Chickie’s VERY speedy recovery. ps relapse can kiss my ASS

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    Scottsdale Girl February 29, 2012 at 11:30 am #

    While my momma was battling ovarian cancer and chemo, she would have good days and go like she had a drill up her butt, then the next day she would be really zonked and mentally beat herself up for doing to much the day before. Then one day she said “I am SO GLAD I had that day, even if it means a slower recovery because I got some things DONE and had a good time!”

    here’s to a SHORT hospital visit. ((MIR))

    Also I hate the word “moist”. GAH

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    Tracy B February 29, 2012 at 12:28 pm #

    {{{{hugs}}}}

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    brigitte February 29, 2012 at 12:37 pm #

    Eww, Scottsdale Girl, “moist” gets me, too!

    Mir, I want to go throttle the fates for you, even if I must dodge all those lightning bolts to do so. I think maybe she could have had a relapse anyway, so at least now she has some FUN stuff to reflect on. :-(

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    Kerry February 29, 2012 at 1:05 pm #

    Much love to you and yours. All things for good, even when it’s hard. Peace.

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    Carrie February 29, 2012 at 2:53 pm #

    you HAD to let her do all the things she did this weekend. She now knows that, after what she’s been through so far, she’s still got it – she’s still a kick-ass Chickie, even when her body isn’t totally cooperating. Those kind of mental heath boosts are what get you through the rough relapses and on to health, and bigger and better things. Thoughts and prayers to all of you.

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    addy February 29, 2012 at 3:18 pm #

    HUGS Mir. Hoping and praying for a quick recovery.

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    Katie in MA February 29, 2012 at 4:14 pm #

    aw, Mir. Maybe without all the positive reinforcement and compliments and the general kickassery she displayed this weekend, the relapse would have been so much worse. You are an amazing mama – don’t doubt yourself. There is too damn much of that going around. {She said, kindly. Sorry if I’m not coming across well – just hate that you’re going through this. :-( }

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    kathy February 29, 2012 at 5:06 pm #

    i really, very strongly agree with everyone else. When you have a kid who will likely never be “normal” medically and everyone looks at them weird and treats them weird, it is SO IMPORTANT for them to have a “normal” time to draw strength from, to know that their old self is not gone and is out there waiting for them. They may never actually obtain their previous level of “old self” but I think they keep trying to get there. So I see this past weekend as just as important for her as her current hospital stay.

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    jodifur February 29, 2012 at 6:42 pm #

    Oh Mir, you, and your family, can not catch a break. I’m just so, so, sorry. And I wish I had your address. Because I want to send chicken soup and a teddy bear and love. So, so, much love.

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    Heide February 29, 2012 at 8:37 pm #

    Well Damn! I am sorry to hear she had to pay a price for a good weekend. I have two children with medical diagnosis. One that requires constant vigilance but she lives a relatively normal life of a 17 year old. My other daughter has a rare auto immune condition that has kept her in and out of the hospital for the last ten years, it has kept her from school and almost any other “Normal” childhood experience. She learned early that physical exertion always came with a price, she just learned to choose very carefully. I tell you this not to be discouraging but to let you know that my daughter who is now 2O, will tell you that she had a wonderful childhood. She knew that her life was different but never considered it as less than. She is now a college freshman living at home, taking a reduced schedule, she has friends, she is happy and most of all she is the most remarkably resiliant person I have ever met. Absoutley nothing rattles her, she is a no drama girl. Problems are only solutions waiting to happen, Having a Mid-term on the same day as having major abdominal surgery (Next Friday) No prob! I hate that her life has been different but ultimatly it shaped her into the beautiful girl she is today.

    I hope your little chick is pain free and not getting poked to much and that you are learning to navigate the hospital experience without to much angst.

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    Anna February 29, 2012 at 9:51 pm #

    NO! DANGIT. *sigh* I’m praying for Chickie and the doctors and you. Take care of yourself and your sweetie.

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    Sarahtoo February 29, 2012 at 9:55 pm #

    Oh, no! I’m so sorry Chickie’s back in the hospital (and how scary for you), but please don’t beat yourself up for it. She had a phenomenal weekend, all talk of feelings aside, so that’s something for sure. You’re such a great mom–keep up the good work!

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    NTE February 29, 2012 at 9:59 pm #

    Oh crap. I hope Chickie feels as well as possible, as soon as possible. And, coming from somebody who remembers how difficult it was to be a teenager and deal with illness at the same time, there’s no sense in beating yourself up – you do your best, she does her best, and still, sometimes, the body decides to screw everything up. Got my fingers crossed that this is a slight setback, and everything moves positively soon.

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    kapgaf March 1, 2012 at 7:23 am #

    The good time and the relapse are probably not even related and unless you were told by doctors “strictly no good times and no winning of competitions and don’t leave town”, please stop feeling guilty (one of the more useless emotions, I feel).

    My pet hate among words is “nice”. The word that means that you can’t think of anything to say about someone or something.

    Wishing you all the strength you need.

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    E's Mommy March 1, 2012 at 8:29 pm #

    I’m so sorry that Chickie is back in the hospital. You couldn’t have known that was going to happen though. Like all the other commenters said, you might’ve told her no and she could’ve relapsed anyway. At least she got to have a super few days before she had to go back to the hospital.

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    Chris March 1, 2012 at 8:37 pm #

    I am in total agreement – you did the best you could – Chickie had a great weekend and you can’t predict what would have happened if you had stayed home except that she would have missed a wonderful set of experiences. Here is to hoping she is better soon.

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    shelly March 3, 2012 at 8:56 am #

    I myself have my share of ‘female’ issues and I think its been 18 surgeries now, I was very lucky to have had Dylan. It is not something I would wish on anyone. I am very sorry for the issues she is facing and I hope she is recovering? One thing I have learned (or even after 5 yrs. after dx and still learning lol) with a special needs child, is you can’t look back, and you have to do what you feel is best for your child at that time. My son has gone through medical issues and I have made decisions where I still say “coulda woulda shoulda’ and its my issue~he’s still smiling breathing and happy :) You are a warrior mama and she is yours, remember that. I am sure none of this is helpful and eases any of what you or she went or are going through and I am very sorry that this is happening. My thoughts are with you xoox

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    Susan March 3, 2012 at 1:10 pm #

    Hoping, hoping, hoping things are looking better by now! Thinking of you and sending good energy to your whole family.

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    Kate in Michigan March 4, 2012 at 10:02 am #

    I keep checking back, hoping to see “SHE’S HOME AND FEELING BETTER!”

    I really am hoping you all get a really good day soon. xo

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    kim March 5, 2012 at 9:21 am #

    What Kate said. Hugs to you and yours.

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    Karen March 5, 2012 at 9:59 am #

    Thinking of you.

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    Little Bird March 5, 2012 at 12:06 pm #

    Is there anything we can do to help?

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    Jodie March 5, 2012 at 2:01 pm #

    Checking in and sending good prayers your way.

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    jwg March 5, 2012 at 3:19 pm #

    Getting a little worried. Hope everything is OK.

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    Jackie March 5, 2012 at 3:42 pm #

    Please tell me your sweet girl isn’t still in the hospital. Thoughts and prayers are continuting to be with you guys.

    Jackie

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    Liz March 5, 2012 at 4:28 pm #

    Hey Mama- Just worried for the WouldaShouldas and hoping Ms Chickie is home. The internet loves you.

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    Beverly March 5, 2012 at 6:09 pm #

    Thinking of you guys, and sending up prayers.

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    summer March 5, 2012 at 8:34 pm #

    Here’s another voice wishing all good things for your family, and hoping for an update soon. A good one, preferably.

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    Michele March 5, 2012 at 10:55 pm #

    Hope all is okay. I’ve been checking your site frequently. Miss your musings.

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    jeebles March 5, 2012 at 11:26 pm #

    I stumbled onto your blog a few weeks ago after googling “grody warts” (aka molluscum). Your words are both uplifting and completely grounded in real life and I hope and pray that this lastest setback is minor and short lived. Best wishes to all.

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    Jamie March 6, 2012 at 8:24 am #

    Long time lurker, first time poster here… Hoping that all is settling down for you folks, and that everyone is okay!

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