Traditional; modern; cerebral

We have arrived once again at the portion of our program where life needs to pause, briefly, so that Otto and I can contemplate our life together. The fact that I have been half-joking for weeks that thinking too hard about this past year can only lead to madness was not a deterrent to my handsome husband; today’s our anniversary/familyversary and that means CELEBRATION.

Regular readers may recall that last year on our anniversary, Otto looked up the traditional 3rd anniversary gift and found that it was leather. Not wanting to deal with a vegetarian-staged protest over his gifting attempt, he elected, instead, to buy us all crystal sun catchers for the kitchen (crystal being the “modern equivalent,” though I’m still wondering how leather turns into crystal, exactly).

I had a feeling that perhaps a tradition had just been started, but I didn’t know for sure until this morning.

Apparently the traditional gift for the fourth wedding anniversary is either fruit or flowers. I would’ve been happy with an apple, but leave it to Otto to make sure we get something that lasts—today at breakfast, the kids and I each received our own rose bushes.

Red for me, pink for Chickadee, and yellow for Monkey. (“Sorry, I couldn’t find any green roses,” Otto told Monkey, before he could complain that they weren’t his favorite color.) They’re perfect. Beautiful and thorny, just like the people I love best.

It’s been 90 degrees here for the last few days, so I felt a little silly presenting Otto with his gift of some new “wicked good” slippers from LL Bean, but he’ll need them this winter. “I don’t know if I always keep your heart warm,” I told him, “but as long as we’re married, I promise to keep your feet warm.” He laughed, which was the goal.

Besides, that wasn’t his real present. I gave him his real present yesterday, as evidenced by this unretouched IM conversation we had when I got back from my doctor’s appointment:

Mir: When the doctor asked me today if there was any particular stress that precipitated this depressive episode, I said “My son has Asperger’s and my daughter… is thirteen.”
Mir: That seemed explanation enough.
Otto: HA
Otto: So, you got a truck load o’ meds?
Mir: More like a pocketful. But yes.
Mir: And a list of therapists.
Otto: Good.
Mir: yep
Otto: And good again.
Otto: I know it isn’t about me, but thank you for going and talking with her.
Otto: I just want you to be happy.
Mir: Happy anniversary! I got you some… LESS CRAZY!
Otto: How did you know?
Mir: Hooray!
Otto: It’s EXACTLY what I wanted.

I already got what I wanted, four years ago. But the roses are nice, too. And I’m looking forward to the Less Crazy.

Happy anniversary, Otto. I don’t know why you put up with me, but I’m so very glad that you do. I love you more all the time, and you’ll always be my favorite.

58 Responses to “Traditional; modern; cerebral”

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    ccr in MA May 11, 2011 at 10:02 am #

    That’s awesome. LESS CRAZY would make a good gift for a range of occasions. Though I do also love roses.

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    Leandra May 11, 2011 at 10:03 am #

    Happy anniversary, you two! Less crazy is always good, no matter how you get there. Here’s hoping the next year is less crazy, too.

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    Lisa May 11, 2011 at 10:03 am #

    Happy Anniversary! I love a good love story, and you two are it! :)

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    Jenna May 11, 2011 at 10:06 am #

    Happy Anniversary you two!!

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    Mary May 11, 2011 at 10:10 am #

    Happy Anniversary! I love when people are TRULY in love – like you guys!

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    bob May 11, 2011 at 10:17 am #

    Congratulations and happy anniversary.

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    Lynn in Mass May 11, 2011 at 10:19 am #

    Happy Anniversary, Mir & Otto!
    Sweet story and love that the whole family is included in the Anniversary

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    Daisy May 11, 2011 at 10:20 am #

    Sigh. This type of conversation is common in my household. I am under treatment for depression, my 19yo has Asperger’s, my job situation sucks, but my husband is the most wonderful on Earth.

    Aren’t we lucky?

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    Hally May 11, 2011 at 10:24 am #

    Happy Anniversary Mir & Otto! I love that he gets the kidlets presents as well. Congrats!

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    Em May 11, 2011 at 10:24 am #

    Happy Anniversary!

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    Teresa] May 11, 2011 at 10:31 am #

    Is it too late to start the anniversary tradition? Because I LOVE that. Even though we don’t do gifts for anniversaries. Of course our next one is the 4th, and I kill plants and it is in January. So I don’t know how well that will go. But its still awesome.

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    Michele May 11, 2011 at 10:33 am #

    Happy Anniversary and Happy Familyversary!

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    Deirdre May 11, 2011 at 10:37 am #

    Happy anniversary! Great gifts from each to each. Love the rosebushes, especially because my family is beautiful (to me) but thorny.

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    Damsel May 11, 2011 at 10:39 am #

    Happy anniversary!!! What an awesome post. I’m all teary at work, AGAIN. :)

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    Leslie May 11, 2011 at 10:40 am #

    Happy Anniversary! I, too, am working on that Less Crazy thing. The IM conversation made me laugh. I don’t have an Otto right now, but I hope when I find one he is as great as yours, Mir. Enjoy your day!

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    Tracy B May 11, 2011 at 10:44 am #

    ♫♪♫HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!!!♫♪♫ I love the traditional gift giving…it makes it easy! ;o)

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    Kristi May 11, 2011 at 10:46 am #

    Happy Anniversary to you all!

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    Aimee May 11, 2011 at 10:46 am #

    I think there are probably a lot of people who would like to get LESS CRAZY for a gift.

    Happy Anniversary, you two!

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    Susan May 11, 2011 at 10:54 am #

    Happy Anniversary!

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    Jill W. May 11, 2011 at 10:59 am #

    Happy Anniversary!

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    parodie May 11, 2011 at 11:00 am #

    Awwwww. You guys are adorable.

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    Michelle B. May 11, 2011 at 11:20 am #

    Happy anniversary and here’s to warm feet and less crazy (and everything in between)!

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    Kayt May 11, 2011 at 11:23 am #

    Happy anniversary! I gave my husband and I less crazy for Valentine’s Day. My Celexa and I are very good friends now. Best family present ever!

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    Christina May 11, 2011 at 11:24 am #

    I love it! All of it! Happy Anniversary/Familyversary to you all!

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    Rachel May 11, 2011 at 11:26 am #

    Happy Anniversary!

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    Megan May 11, 2011 at 11:27 am #

    And know what? Less Crazy always fits!

    The rose bushes? Way cool. Otto knows how to do anniversaries RIGHT.

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    Sheila May 11, 2011 at 11:41 am #

    Happy Anniversary to you two crazy kids.

    Wait… er, I mean crazy in a good way. Maybe I should say LESS CRAZY kids? Ah, I hope you know what I mean. Enjoy your roses, thorns and all.

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    suzie May 11, 2011 at 11:49 am #

    Happy Anniversary!

    I always tell my husband (my own version of your Otto) that he’s my favorite! But then I feel guilty that I’ve slighted the kids, and so end up adding all these caveats. ;)

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    Jean May 11, 2011 at 11:50 am #

    Happy anniversary!!

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    Lisse May 11, 2011 at 12:00 pm #

    “They’re perfect. Beautiful and thorny, just like the people I love best.”

    I love this line! Happy anniversary.

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    Monique May 11, 2011 at 12:14 pm #

    Happy Anniversary!

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    Karen R. May 11, 2011 at 12:19 pm #

    Happy anniversary! And here is hoping for a little (or a lot) less stress. AS plus 13 — highly stress worthy. I used to joke about having one autistic daughter, plus one who was *really* difficult. :-) Said difficult child grew up into a lovely adult, so there is hope.

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    Varda (SquashedMom) May 11, 2011 at 12:28 pm #

    Happy Anniversary! How I love (and can relate to) this line: “They’re perfect. Beautiful and thorny, just like the people I love best.”

    Enjoy the “Less crazy,” working on that myself these days.

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    Brandi May 11, 2011 at 12:37 pm #

    I got my husband the less crazy too in January.. he said he’s happy I stopped yelling all the time. I’m happy that I stopped, too!

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    Heather May 11, 2011 at 12:53 pm #

    Happy anniversary, you two crazy kids <3

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    Grace May 11, 2011 at 1:17 pm #

    What a sweet story. I’d presented my partner with less crazy as a gift before, too, and I’m pretty sure it’s the best one I’ve ever given him. :)

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    Melanie May 11, 2011 at 1:24 pm #

    Happy Anniversary!!

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    Dawn May 11, 2011 at 1:33 pm #

    All I want for Christmas is a reasonable facsimile of Otto. He sounds like a keeper.

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    Angela May 11, 2011 at 1:34 pm #

    Happy Anniversary! Less crazy is always the best gift!

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    Scottsdale Girl May 11, 2011 at 2:13 pm #

    YAY! Happy Anni/Fami/Versary!!!!!!

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    The Mommy Therapy May 11, 2011 at 2:47 pm #

    I love the rose bushes, and adore the fact that you celebrate all of you coming together, not just you and Otto. Fantastic!

    Congratulations on unloading a little of your crazy. Therapy is amazing.

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    Susan May 11, 2011 at 3:05 pm #

    Love, love, love humor in a marriage ~ keeps you going during some dark and dreary times. Best wishes on this anniversary!

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    Amelia May 11, 2011 at 3:12 pm #

    Sigh. So, so sweet. I love it.

    And I’m glad you saw someone :).

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    Nancy May 11, 2011 at 3:19 pm #

    Happy Anniversary!

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    Beth R May 11, 2011 at 3:58 pm #

    Happy Famiversary!!!!

    You made me sniffle a bit :)

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    amy May 11, 2011 at 5:01 pm #

    Happy Anniversary!

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    Beth in Iowa May 11, 2011 at 8:06 pm #

    Hope your anni/famiversary has continued to be a lovely one!

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    jennamom2boys May 11, 2011 at 8:50 pm #

    Aww, how sweet. Happy familyversary! Love the rose bushes. (And congrats on getting meds. I am a big, big fan of meds, and less crazy in general.)

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    Lara May 11, 2011 at 11:19 pm #

    Aww .. You two are priceless together. Love the familyversary idea. Happy Anniversary!

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    addy May 11, 2011 at 11:49 pm #

    Happy Anniversary Mir and Otto. Keep at it you’re doing amazing together!!

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    Lady M May 12, 2011 at 1:56 am #

    Happy Anniversary!

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    Cele May 12, 2011 at 2:26 am #

    You guys are so cute to watch.

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    Brigitte May 12, 2011 at 6:25 am #

    Happy, happy, joy, joy! And cheers for modern chemistry!

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    Alison May 12, 2011 at 7:13 am #

    Happy, Happy Anniversary!!! Wishing you many, many more years of happiness and thoughtfulness.

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    Otto May 12, 2011 at 11:40 am #

    At first glance, I thought the title to this post was, “Traditional, modern, cereal” and thought you were about to make fun of my preference for Grape Nuts in the morning. Again.

    But while less crazy is good, you as you is just better. And all three of you are beautiful and thorny – and that’s why I’m sticking around.


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    Katie in MA May 12, 2011 at 1:05 pm #

    Mir, we love Crazy You, we love Less Crazy You, we love all the Yous. And we especially love the You you are as half of Mir&Otto. Wishing you and the fam many, many crazyhappy years together. :)

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    Nancy R May 12, 2011 at 10:35 pm #

    Happy Anniversary! Totally thought you were leading up to a fruit flower bouquet.

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    karen May 13, 2011 at 11:22 am #

    Oh, I just still really love that Otto. And grapenuts in the morning, with hot milk.

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