Comments on: Into the woods, a little while longer http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/ "Maybe all we can hope to do is end up with the right regrets." Sat, 11 Feb 2012 04:39:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Cynthia Samuels http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100649 Cynthia Samuels Mon, 31 Mar 2008 13:49:22 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100649 So Mir, what lovely thoughts. It can be mild, not always totally malignant, this adolescent thing. And I have a suggestion for you - one that is quite wonderful. A woman named Shireen Dodson worried as you do, and to keep a "line open" she started a mother-daughter book club when her daughter was around Chickadee's age. They gathered 4-5 moms and daughters and met once a month. The book about it is totally inspiring http://www.harpercollins.com/books/9780060890346/The_MotherDaughter_Book_Club_Rev_Ed/index.aspx and fun to read. Might want to give it a try - it's all over the country now with no complaints that I've read. Have fun in NY and have a pretzel with mustard for me..... So Mir, what lovely thoughts. It can be mild, not always totally malignant, this adolescent thing. And I have a suggestion for you – one that is quite wonderful. A woman named Shireen Dodson worried as you do, and to keep a “line open” she started a mother-daughter book club when her daughter was around Chickadee’s age. They gathered 4-5 moms and daughters and met once a month. The book about it is totally inspiring http://www.harpercollins.com/books/9780060890346/The_MotherDaughter_Book_Club_Rev_Ed/index.aspx and fun to read. Might want to give it a try – it’s all over the country now with no complaints that I’ve read. Have fun in NY and have a pretzel with mustard for me…..

]]> By: Dawn http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100607 Dawn Fri, 28 Mar 2008 21:29:33 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100607 We have just emerged from the last of adolescence. Suddenly, I know a LOT. Isn't it funny how that happens? We have just emerged from the last of adolescence. Suddenly, I know a LOT. Isn’t it funny how that happens?

]]> By: KarateMom http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100546 KarateMom Fri, 28 Mar 2008 11:56:53 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100546 "Next year it all changes, I’m told, if only from the school’s perspective. They discourage parent interaction in intermediate. It’s all about the need to individuate and detach." OK, that scares me! Especially since it's coming from the school itself! I homeschool, so I don't have to worry about the school telling me that I need to detatch. But, I noticed my daughter getting a little embarassed when I'd kiss her goodbye in front of her friends at the co-op that we attend. So I asked her if she'd prefer it if I'd kiss her at the car. She said yes, and my heart broke a little bit, but I understand. I love this post! “Next year it all changes, I’m told, if only from the school’s perspective. They discourage parent interaction in intermediate. It’s all about the need to individuate and detach.”
OK, that scares me! Especially since it’s coming from the school itself!

I homeschool, so I don’t have to worry about the school telling me that I need to detatch. But, I noticed my daughter getting a little embarassed when I’d kiss her goodbye in front of her friends at the co-op that we attend. So I asked her if she’d prefer it if I’d kiss her at the car. She said yes, and my heart broke a little bit, but I understand.

I love this post!

]]> By: Scottsdale Girl http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100545 Scottsdale Girl Fri, 28 Mar 2008 04:51:08 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100545 You'll grow apart .. but then you will be closer than ever and there will be a glorious day (hopefully in her 20's) when she will acknowledge how SMART and PRETTY and AH_WONDERFUL you really are/were. I promise. You’ll grow apart .. but then you will be closer than ever and there will be a glorious day (hopefully in her 20′s) when she will acknowledge how SMART and PRETTY and AH_WONDERFUL you really are/were.

I promise.

]]> By: Shalet http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100544 Shalet Fri, 28 Mar 2008 04:41:22 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100544 What a wonderful rainbow of colors! It is indeed hard to watch them grow. Happy Love Thursday to you mama! Enjoy it while it lasts. What a wonderful rainbow of colors! It is indeed hard to watch them grow. Happy Love Thursday to you mama! Enjoy it while it lasts.

]]> By: Kristen http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100539 Kristen Thu, 27 Mar 2008 21:41:52 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100539 I would love to have those times back again. My daughter is getting ready to graduate and thinks I have no idea how she is feeling or what she is going through, therefore, she only needs her friends. I'm just biding my time until she passes through this phase and comes back. It will happen, but the question is, "Can I wait that long?" : ) I would love to have those times back again. My daughter is getting ready to graduate and thinks I have no idea how she is feeling or what she is going through, therefore, she only needs her friends. I’m just biding my time until she passes through this phase and comes back. It will happen, but the question is, “Can I wait that long?” : )

]]> By: MomCat http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100537 MomCat Thu, 27 Mar 2008 20:30:19 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100537 You gotta USE that potential embarrassment when it comes. Hang it overhead like the Sword of Damocles. Promise her that if she doesn't make it home by curfew, you'll stand in the school parking lot the next morning, in a pink, flowered hat and sing show tunes. Make the most of it! You gotta USE that potential embarrassment when it comes. Hang it overhead like the Sword of Damocles. Promise her that if she doesn’t make it home by curfew, you’ll stand in the school parking lot the next morning, in a pink, flowered hat and sing show tunes. Make the most of it!

]]> By: mojo http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100536 mojo Thu, 27 Mar 2008 19:57:04 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100536 I've been almost a regular fixture in the kindergarten classroom this year. I get hugs on a regular basis from several daycare kids, lamenting cries from a few of them "when are you going to heeeeelp again?" and I feel my heart being torn out of my chest as another little soul weeps "my mommy never comes to help". I know I'm very fortunate to have the time to volunteer. Today, though, I walked with the oldest and her class to check out a junior high school for next year. I know within six months I will be forbidden from entering the school. This power to embarrass will be wielded as another weapon in my arsenal of discipline options. muwahahahaha! I’ve been almost a regular fixture in the kindergarten classroom this year. I get hugs on a regular basis from several daycare kids, lamenting cries from a few of them “when are you going to heeeeelp again?” and I feel my heart being torn out of my chest as another little soul weeps “my mommy never comes to help”. I know I’m very fortunate to have the time to volunteer.
Today, though, I walked with the oldest and her class to check out a junior high school for next year. I know within six months I will be forbidden from entering the school. This power to embarrass will be wielded as another weapon in my arsenal of discipline options. muwahahahaha!

]]> By: gwendomama http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100535 gwendomama Thu, 27 Mar 2008 19:36:45 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100535 so beautifully said. i agree - which i why i will be in the classroom til she kicks me out. so beautifully said.

i agree – which i why i will be in the classroom til she kicks me out.

]]> By: arduous http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100533 arduous Thu, 27 Mar 2008 18:29:29 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/03/27/into-the-woods-a-little-while-longer/#comment-100533 God damn it Mir. Why you gotta keep making me cry at work! :) God damn it Mir. Why you gotta keep making me cry at work! :)

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