Comments on: The tragedies of your rotten life http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/ "Maybe all we can hope to do is end up with the right regrets." Tue, 22 May 2012 15:48:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Belinda http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98292 Belinda Tue, 29 Jan 2008 19:31:29 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98292 I am totally in favor of going back to imaginary-land. I have my own, thank you, and none of these ingrates I live with is invited. I am totally in favor of going back to imaginary-land. I have my own, thank you, and none of these ingrates I live with is invited.

]]> By: CathyC http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98254 CathyC Tue, 29 Jan 2008 13:56:30 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98254 Knock on wood I know nothing about divorce, but I do know about that attitude. That was me until my sisters took over the role, and I've spied that same woe-is-me in my niece, too. Kids! Thank goodness for a good sense of humor like you have. I'm sure it will help you survive. Have a better day! :) Knock on wood I know nothing about divorce, but I do know about that attitude. That was me until my sisters took over the role, and I’ve spied that same woe-is-me in my niece, too. Kids! Thank goodness for a good sense of humor like you have. I’m sure it will help you survive.
Have a better day! :)

]]> By: Chris http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98128 Chris Fri, 25 Jan 2008 16:34:55 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98128 Divorce Sucks-- Grow the hell up and quit whining. If you're a kid posting, well, same advice. Honestly. Divorce Sucks–

Grow the hell up and quit whining. If you’re a kid posting, well, same advice. Honestly.

]]> By: kathy http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98114 kathy Fri, 25 Jan 2008 06:27:10 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98114 I can't speak for Mir, but I don't spank any of my four because it only teaches that violence is right and that if you are bigger than someone you get to hit them. I want my kids to do the right thing because they recognize it is right from within themselves. While I was hit and I turned out "ok" it also took me many many years to undo the "lessons" I learned from being hit and it was a very long and costly lesson plan. I also want a better relationship with my kids than I have with my parents. I love them, but there is a distance. Basically, I can't see any good that can come from hitting a child other than immediately getting their attention and possibly stopping them from doing something out of fear of retribution. (I say possibly as a child who is really intent on doing whatever you're hitting them for will find a way) And that isn't good enough for me. I can’t speak for Mir, but I don’t spank any of my four because it only teaches that violence is right and that if you are bigger than someone you get to hit them. I want my kids to do the right thing because they recognize it is right from within themselves. While I was hit and I turned out “ok” it also took me many many years to undo the “lessons” I learned from being hit and it was a very long and costly lesson plan. I also want a better relationship with my kids than I have with my parents. I love them, but there is a distance.

Basically, I can’t see any good that can come from hitting a child other than immediately getting their attention and possibly stopping them from doing something out of fear of retribution. (I say possibly as a child who is really intent on doing whatever you’re hitting them for will find a way) And that isn’t good enough for me.

]]> By: barb http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98109 barb Fri, 25 Jan 2008 00:20:47 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98109 Mir - my 6 yr old, when really frustrated with me, will say through gritted teeth "Oh! You are just the...." and I quickly say "best damn mom YOU are ever gonna have!" Hang in there, Chickie will appreciate you some day. Like when she's 33 and has 2 boys of her own. Oh, wait! That's me and my appreciation of MY mom, sorry! Mir – my 6 yr old, when really frustrated with me, will say through gritted teeth “Oh! You are just the….” and I quickly say “best damn mom YOU are ever gonna have!”

Hang in there, Chickie will appreciate you some day. Like when she’s 33 and has 2 boys of her own. Oh, wait! That’s me and my appreciation of MY mom, sorry!

]]> By: carrien http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98108 carrien Thu, 24 Jan 2008 23:06:53 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98108 ROFL I'm so relieved to know it's not only my kids who do that. and that I'm not the only one who bites back the sarcastic commentary that immediately springs to mind. The GH likes to tell them, "Yeah, this is the best it's ever gonna get for you. It's all downhill from here. Just wait until you have to make your own food, and pay your own bills, and take care of your own kids, hahahahahaha!" You are a truly wonderful blogger. ROFL

I’m so relieved to know it’s not only my kids who do that. and that I’m not the only one who bites back the sarcastic commentary that immediately springs to mind.

The GH likes to tell them, “Yeah, this is the best it’s ever gonna get for you. It’s all downhill from here. Just wait until you have to make your own food, and pay your own bills, and take care of your own kids, hahahahahaha!”

You are a truly wonderful blogger.

]]> By: Heidi http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98107 Heidi Thu, 24 Jan 2008 22:51:22 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98107 AMEN TO THAT SISTER! I was laughing the whole time reading this. I plan to read it outloud to my husband and stepson too. I was just reading the other day about mean mothers and I ran across this wonderful poem about them. So forgive me for posting a link, but you have to read it. http://www.spannj.org/BridgeArchives/mean_mothers.htm PS Found you site from Jill AMEN TO THAT SISTER! I was laughing the whole time reading this. I plan to read it outloud to my husband and stepson too. I was just reading the other day about mean mothers and I ran across this wonderful poem about them. So forgive me for posting a link, but you have to read it.
http://www.spannj.org/BridgeArchives/mean_mothers.htm
PS Found you site from Jill

]]> By: MaryP http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98106 MaryP Thu, 24 Jan 2008 21:38:31 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98106 Oh, poor Mir. Wonderful post, horrible day. You have all my virtual support and hugs. Would Chickie like to come to Ottawa for a sleepover, maybe? Oh, poor Mir. Wonderful post, horrible day. You have all my virtual support and hugs. Would Chickie like to come to Ottawa for a sleepover, maybe?

]]> By: Tracey http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98070 Tracey Thu, 24 Jan 2008 09:20:12 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98070 There are plenty of children of non-divorced parents who could do with the firm, loving and consistent parenting you give your kids. I think all of us recognise days like that - and I'm sure there are a few others like me who are thankful that our protesting children don't have the divorce excuse to try on as well! "Divorce sucks" should get a reality check. I can't help but give an example because it has been reality check day for me. My daughter's friend's mother is not only divorced, but incapacitated by a muscle wasting disease (we were visiting her today) and permanently in hospital. This 12 year old is raised by her grandmother (and grandmother's third partner), who is also helping out before and after school, and holidays, with her son's TWO SETS OF TWINS (girls aged 10, and boys aged 5), because their mother was some sort of flaky, and inconsistent and I think drug addicted person, who could never decide whether she wanted to have the kids or couldn't. Despite the madness of her life, which includes trying to get into the hospital (half an hour away) as much as possible to be with her mum, this girl thinks she is LUCKY because she knows that her mother and grandmother love her, AND it is very obvious that she has been raised with a loving yet firm discipline, even if Nan is pretty stressed a lot of the time. Which reminds me... all the kids I actually LIKE have firm and consistent parenting, no matter what is happening with their marital state of their parents. And the little sh***s? They are the ones who even if they have two apparently happily married original parents, have both parents letting them get away with way too much, and using "excuses". Stay firm and true, Mir. And post away when it drives you nuts because it resonates with all of us! (Sorry.. I don't often comment, but when i do I get carried away!!) There are plenty of children of non-divorced parents who could do with the firm, loving and consistent parenting you give your kids. I think all of us recognise days like that – and I’m sure there are a few others like me who are thankful that our protesting children don’t have the divorce excuse to try on as well!

“Divorce sucks” should get a reality check. I can’t help but give an example because it has been reality check day for me. My daughter’s friend’s mother is not only divorced, but incapacitated by a muscle wasting disease (we were visiting her today) and permanently in hospital. This 12 year old is raised by her grandmother (and grandmother’s third partner), who is also helping out before and after school, and holidays, with her son’s TWO SETS OF TWINS (girls aged 10, and boys aged 5), because their mother was some sort of flaky, and inconsistent and I think drug addicted person, who could never decide whether she wanted to have the kids or couldn’t. Despite the madness of her life, which includes trying to get into the hospital (half an hour away) as much as possible to be with her mum, this girl thinks she is LUCKY because she knows that her mother and grandmother love her, AND it is very obvious that she has been raised with a loving yet firm discipline, even if Nan is pretty stressed a lot of the time.

Which reminds me… all the kids I actually LIKE have firm and consistent parenting, no matter what is happening with their marital state of their parents. And the little sh***s? They are the ones who even if they have two apparently happily married original parents, have both parents letting them get away with way too much, and using “excuses”.

Stay firm and true, Mir. And post away when it drives you nuts because it resonates with all of us!
(Sorry.. I don’t often comment, but when i do I get carried away!!)

]]> By: Lady M http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98069 Lady M Thu, 24 Jan 2008 08:56:33 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2008/01/23/the-tragedies-of-your-rotten-life/#comment-98069 Life is just so, so, tough these days. Sometimes we make Q EAT DINNER when it is so clearly time to play air guitar instead. Life is just so, so, tough these days. Sometimes we make Q EAT DINNER when it is so clearly time to play air guitar instead.

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