Comments on: Inconvenient truths

By: Jenifer

Jenifer — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 17:26:04 +0000

Awwwww…. you’re an awesome Mom!

And I felt pretty honored the first time my step-son asked me to sign something for him too!

By: Glennia

Glennia — Sun, 09 Sep 2007 15:28:19 +0000

Glad to know that I am not the only one with a kid who takes 2 hours to finish a 10 minute homework assignment. My husband and I are together, and still, I’m the bad guy. Always. At least according to my son and husband.

By: Angela

Angela — Sun, 09 Sep 2007 03:16:30 +0000

Ah…that’s so sweet that even if unconsciously she let him do that. It totally makes things pause for a second.

By: carolyn

carolyn — Sat, 08 Sep 2007 15:59:32 +0000

The one thing that makes me the craziest is when the father then believes the children’s version of events and complains to me. That REALLY gets me going… Like he doesn’t get it that kids revise events to get the advantage.

By: Woman with Kids

Woman with Kids — Sat, 08 Sep 2007 15:54:24 +0000

Amen. It is so draining to always be the bad guy, and their father always be the fun one. Just once in a while, *I* want him to be the bad guy. Maybe on Mother’s day? Is that too much to ask?

By: Cele

Cele — Sat, 08 Sep 2007 04:52:25 +0000

I remember those moments where the hard spot was about as comfortable as the rock and the space inbetween was littered with poinky nails. But there are the good times when all the rest goes out the window and now I can’t remember the bad moments, because the good times are golden memories that I cherish.

By: Daisy

Daisy — Sat, 08 Sep 2007 00:36:48 +0000

That “sad and selfish truth” is the way motherhood is meant to be. Take care of your own; you can be as empathetic as you want, but you know yours need you (whether they admit it or not!).

By: ChristieNY

ChristieNY — Fri, 07 Sep 2007 23:17:59 +0000

Just wanted to stop by and give you a hug because you are awesome. And let you know that we all have days like that but DUDE look what you and your kids have been through the past few months alone!!! That said, you are all adjusting beautifully. I think it’s time to eat some ice cream and call it a day. :)

By: Lynda

Lynda — Fri, 07 Sep 2007 22:21:39 +0000

Don’t feel bad…I homeschool an 11 year old that should be able to wiz through his work, just because he’s smart. If there is something that he wants to do, he’s all about it. If it’s just a matter of getting his work done, he will piddle along and do just what he wants to do when he wants to do until it makes his dad’s head explode. Then, you know, after the fun of watching said father’s head explode wears off, he gots the work done and everything is fine. Until that time threats, cajoling, and everything else doesn’t speed things up. So I know how you feel.

By: Kate

Kate — Fri, 07 Sep 2007 20:45:57 +0000

So, will casting your mind into the future, to a time when both of your kids are college, help out your present situation? Because my mom sounds like she was very much like you.

There is only one thing I can remember her ever saying to me that still hurts my feelings years later and that I felt was unfair.

And in the face of all the other things she has done for me, that’s so not worth anything at all. Especially since I am sure I have also hurt her feelings.

Even when I was a kid, I can remember being in Rational Head and Kid Head, and knowing that even if the ‘rents were BEING SO MEAN, they probably were doing the right thing. And, like you, they were strict. I also knew, then, that when they did allow something that involved their trusting me or a risk, chances were it would be safe and come out okay.

All these years later, I am so grateful for their consistency. To a kid, what consistency is, is trustworthiness.

So. I am not a parent, but I am a daughter, and I think in twenty years, your kids will be aware and grateful. Assuming they haven’t been gnawed to death of course.