Comments on: Meanwhile, back at the ranch http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/ "Maybe all we can hope to do is end up with the right regrets." Sat, 11 Feb 2012 03:59:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Becky http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-93444 Becky Sat, 15 Sep 2007 21:12:16 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-93444 My mom would tell me that the boys all picked on me because they all really liked me. Yea. Right. I certainly think you did a better and much more honest job. My mom would tell me that the boys all picked on me because they all really liked me.

Yea. Right.

I certainly think you did a better and much more honest job.

]]> By: Dawn http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-92843 Dawn Fri, 31 Aug 2007 20:18:01 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-92843 What they all said. Bullies all need to be taught how to say one thing. "Do you want fries with that?" What they all said.

Bullies all need to be taught how to say one thing.

“Do you want fries with that?”

]]> By: Woulda Coulda Shoulda » Little girl lost http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-92809 Woulda Coulda Shoulda » Little girl lost Fri, 31 Aug 2007 13:36:40 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-92809 [...] Remember the whole Mean Girls thing? Well, Chickadee continued to come home with tales about one of them in particular. Let’s call her Xtina. [...] [...] Remember the whole Mean Girls thing? Well, Chickadee continued to come home with tales about one of them in particular. Let’s call her Xtina. [...]

]]> By: jessica http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-92805 jessica Fri, 31 Aug 2007 02:47:45 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-92805 I wish you'd been my mom when I was a little girl...and a middle schooler......and a teenager..... I'll be keeping these things in mind for when my own little girl starts school. I wish you’d been my mom when I was a little girl…and a middle schooler……and a teenager…..

I’ll be keeping these things in mind for when my own little girl starts school.

]]> By: Jenifer http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-92797 Jenifer Thu, 30 Aug 2007 20:36:00 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-92797 I was also teased as a kid. And I ahve to say, I wish you had been my Mom! I think you handles it well.... and kids can be brutal. I hope she learns that she shouldn't compromise herself. ever. I was also teased as a kid. And I ahve to say, I wish you had been my Mom! I think you handles it well…. and kids can be brutal. I hope she learns that she shouldn’t compromise herself. ever.

]]> By: Angel http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-92767 Angel Thu, 30 Aug 2007 08:06:24 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-92767 You totally *rock* as a mom, Mir!!! Ok, I do use the "They are jealous" line. But that's not the only thing I use when talking to my daughter (she's 12) about bullies. We talk about how the other person may have issues, about being nice even when someone is mean, and I've even made her apologize to a mean girl when she needed to. (The girl was speechless). Over the past 4 years, all our dialogues are paying off (for now LOL). She's very confident, has made friends with girls who formerly teased her (one is the aforementioned mean girl), and can hold her own with the "mean girls" so they aren't bugging her. TOTALLY read "Queen Bees & Wannabees". Such an awesome book. I worried about my daughter this year--her best friend transferred to another school. But so far, so good. You totally *rock* as a mom, Mir!!!

Ok, I do use the “They are jealous” line. But that’s not the only thing I use when talking to my daughter (she’s 12) about bullies. We talk about how the other person may have issues, about being nice even when someone is mean, and I’ve even made her apologize to a mean girl when she needed to. (The girl was speechless).

Over the past 4 years, all our dialogues are paying off (for now LOL). She’s very confident, has made friends with girls who formerly teased her (one is the aforementioned mean girl), and can hold her own with the “mean girls” so they aren’t bugging her.

TOTALLY read “Queen Bees & Wannabees”. Such an awesome book.

I worried about my daughter this year–her best friend transferred to another school. But so far, so good.

]]> By: nan http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-92760 nan Wed, 29 Aug 2007 21:10:24 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-92760 Ha! Hahaha! Haa! We have an avocado TREE!! Yes ma'am. Dripping with avocadoes. Not your little 6-inch, watery things, either. Big as your head. Hybrid, creamy. We had some for breakfast, and some with lunch, and , well, we will have to have some for supper too. All over the island, people are saying "oh lord, not more avocadoes!" but my eldest son and I are addicted. When the season is over, I will hug the tree and cry. Ha! Hahaha! Haa! We have an avocado TREE!! Yes ma’am. Dripping with avocadoes. Not your little 6-inch, watery things, either. Big as your head. Hybrid, creamy. We had some for breakfast, and some with lunch, and , well, we will have to have some for supper too. All over the island, people are saying “oh lord, not more avocadoes!” but my eldest son and I are addicted. When the season is over, I will hug the tree and cry.

]]> By: Jennifer http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-92749 Jennifer Wed, 29 Aug 2007 17:23:29 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-92749 Thought I would share this parent's incident with bullying - http://rocksinmydryer.typepad.com/shannon/2007/08/his-mountain.html I like the way the father handled the bully. Thought I would share this parent’s incident with bullying – http://rocksinmydryer.typepad.com/shannon/2007/08/his-mountain.html

I like the way the father handled the bully.

]]> By: Cele http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-92710 Cele Wed, 29 Aug 2007 04:53:24 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-92710 I am so glad I don't have to go through all this again, because I'm not sure I was as good a parent as you are. I am so glad I don’t have to go through all this again, because I’m not sure I was as good a parent as you are.

]]> By: Angie http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-92709 Angie Wed, 29 Aug 2007 03:37:28 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/08/28/meanwhile-back-at-the-ranch/#comment-92709 Regarding the Oscar nomination: My son's former Montessori teacher once announced at a parent meeting, "We promise not to believe everything your child tells us about your family if you promise not to believe everything they say happened at school." That being said, I agree with the person who said that most of the time they just want to be heard, even if their side of the story is a bit... exaggerated. Regarding the Oscar nomination: My son’s former Montessori teacher once announced at a parent meeting, “We promise not to believe everything your child tells us about your family if you promise not to believe everything they say happened at school.” That being said, I agree with the person who said that most of the time they just want to be heard, even if their side of the story is a bit… exaggerated.

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