Comments on: Gains and losses http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/ "Maybe all we can hope to do is end up with the right regrets." Fri, 10 Feb 2012 14:31:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Dorothy http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88444 Dorothy Wed, 09 May 2007 20:56:40 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88444 I hear you loud and clear. I remember being upset with myself after I got married and again after I had the little angel for opening myself up to the possibility of such hurt if anything ever happened to them. But then, I can't imagine life without them. Having that consciousness, though, that awareness of both the frailty and strength of relationships, is what life is worth living for. I hear you loud and clear. I remember being upset with myself after I got married and again after I had the little angel for opening myself up to the possibility of such hurt if anything ever happened to them. But then, I can’t imagine life without them.

Having that consciousness, though, that awareness of both the frailty and strength of relationships, is what life is worth living for.

]]> By: kate setzer kamphausen http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88388 kate setzer kamphausen Tue, 08 May 2007 15:07:16 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88388 Dear Mir: People in Chicago are praying for you. Also: Leonard Cohen says, "There's a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in." Gerard Manley Hopkins says, "The Holy Spirit broods over everything/ With warm breast and with ah! bright wings." May there be more light, wings of light, in your dark place this week. Love to you. Dear Mir:

People in Chicago are praying for you.

Also: Leonard Cohen says, “There’s a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.”

Gerard Manley Hopkins says, “The Holy Spirit broods over everything/ With warm breast and with ah! bright wings.”

May there be more light, wings of light, in your dark place this week. Love to you.

]]> By: Jen http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88387 Jen Tue, 08 May 2007 14:40:08 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88387 Holy CRAP! Now that's good writin'. Holy CRAP! Now that’s good writin’.

]]> By: David http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88380 David Tue, 08 May 2007 12:10:17 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88380 I do so enjoy your usual tongue-in-cheeky way of dealing with the maddening world of life on this here Earth. Perhaps that's the very thing that makes it so poignant and impactful when you wax introspective. Bless your heart, Mir, and Best Wishes for the future. I do so enjoy your usual tongue-in-cheeky way of dealing with the maddening world of life on this here Earth. Perhaps that’s the very thing that makes it so poignant and impactful when you wax introspective. Bless your heart, Mir, and Best Wishes for the future.

]]> By: Krisco http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88365 Krisco Tue, 08 May 2007 03:28:39 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88365 Oh Mir. You express it all so well. We totally understand. Oh Mir. You express it all so well. We totally understand.

]]> By: alice http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88364 alice Tue, 08 May 2007 02:46:42 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88364 Cele said it so well: Mir, our lovely Mir, yes we all feel like we own a special piece of you, because you give to us freely and with the genuiness that is Mir all the lovely and tattered parts of you to cherish and hug. Thank you for continuing to share those lovely and tattered pieces - to the extent that there are vibes in the world, know that there are some powerful good vibes coming your way from all of these posters, plus all of the lurkers. Cele said it so well:
Mir, our lovely Mir, yes we all feel like we own a special piece of you, because you give to us freely and with the genuiness that is Mir all the lovely and tattered parts of you to cherish and hug.

Thank you for continuing to share those lovely and tattered pieces – to the extent that there are vibes in the world, know that there are some powerful good vibes coming your way from all of these posters, plus all of the lurkers.

]]> By: julie http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88363 julie Tue, 08 May 2007 02:34:38 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88363 I thought Lil Daughter would surely die before she was three because she was such a perfect baby. I "knew" God would want her back. We made it past three and I breathed a sigh of relief. Then all hell broke loose with her health. She's 20 now and we both appreciate everyday more because of that experience. The fear never goes away. You just get better at dealing with it. And, you DO get better at it. This is stress manifesting itself. It will all be better soon, very soon. Hugs, Mir. You Are Very Pretty. Oh, and I So Heart your Dad I thought Lil Daughter would surely die before she was three because she was such a perfect baby. I “knew” God would want her back. We made it past three and I breathed a sigh of relief. Then all hell broke loose with her health.
She’s 20 now and we both appreciate everyday more because of that experience.
The fear never goes away. You just get better at dealing with it. And, you DO get better at it.
This is stress manifesting itself. It will all be better soon, very soon.
Hugs, Mir. You Are Very Pretty.
Oh, and I So Heart your Dad

]]> By: Kira http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88362 Kira Tue, 08 May 2007 02:31:45 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88362 I love you. I love you.

]]> By: Jamie Lee http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88361 Jamie Lee Tue, 08 May 2007 02:15:26 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88361 Someone else commented that it's always darkest before the light. I think that's true. Sometimes, it feels like you have to do a little unidentified grieving before moving on to the next big thing. I'm sorry for your loss and all the stress. I am sending more of the virtual hugs offered up by your readers. And I think I'll have to agree with Liise about the chocolate chip cookies...sometimes it's the small pleasures that pull us through. Hang in and take care. Someone else commented that it’s always darkest before the light. I think that’s true. Sometimes, it feels like you have to do a little unidentified grieving before moving on to the next big thing. I’m sorry for your loss and all the stress. I am sending more of the virtual hugs offered up by your readers. And I think I’ll have to agree with Liise about the chocolate chip cookies…sometimes it’s the small pleasures that pull us through.
Hang in and take care.

]]> By: meritt http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88359 meritt Tue, 08 May 2007 01:43:13 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2007/05/06/gains-and-losses/#comment-88359 Ahhh yes... my 'melt down' when we were moving and I had been living away from my husband for 2 months, trying to sell a home with 14 'shows' in 2 weeks and I had 3 children, all under the age of eight.... I burned a pan of cookies and bawled my head off on the living room stairs as if someone died. :) Ahhh yes… my ‘melt down’ when we were moving and I had been living away from my husband for 2 months, trying to sell a home with 14 ‘shows’ in 2 weeks and I had 3 children, all under the age of eight….

I burned a pan of cookies and bawled my head off on the living room stairs as if someone died.

:)

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