Comments on: Blog Book Tour: The Ghost in the House http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/ "Maybe all we can hope to do is end up with the right regrets." Mon, 21 May 2012 13:21:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Meghan http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11480 Meghan Mon, 14 Aug 2006 14:47:27 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11480 "there is also a great joy in realizing that helping yourself is also the greatest mothering you can share with your children." That is a powerful (part of a )sentence, Mir. We can choose what we teach. At least some of it. Thank you. “there is also a great joy in realizing that helping yourself is also the greatest mothering you can share with your children.”

That is a powerful (part of a )sentence, Mir.

We can choose what we teach. At least some of it. Thank you.

]]> By: helensparkles http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11374 helensparkles Fri, 11 Aug 2006 23:42:20 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11374 Since she was 5? Since she was 5?

]]> By: JGS http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11338 JGS Fri, 11 Aug 2006 00:50:05 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11338 It's really incredible how many parents have struggled and suffered with depression - even us Dads. I worry SO much about "infecting" my Okapis, trying to protect them from my family and in some ways myself - while still trying to be there fully for them. It's hard, if not impossible, and only recently have I begun to understand, I don't need to change the future of my family in one big stroke. I just have to try to stop the really bad stuff and give my Okapis the chance I never had. For me that's the meaning of the courage to be imperfect. It’s really incredible how many parents have struggled and suffered with depression – even us Dads. I worry SO much about “infecting” my Okapis, trying to protect them from my family and in some ways myself – while still trying to be there fully for them. It’s hard, if not impossible, and only recently have I begun to understand, I don’t need to change the future of my family in one big stroke. I just have to try to stop the really bad stuff and give my Okapis the chance I never had. For me that’s the meaning of the courage to be imperfect.

]]> By: mother-talk.com » Blog Archive » MotherTalk Blog Tour Day Three: “The Ghost in the House” http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11284 mother-talk.com » Blog Archive » MotherTalk Blog Tour Day Three: “The Ghost in the House” Wed, 09 Aug 2006 18:06:05 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11284 [...] Posting for the Blog Tour today is Jenny at Three Kid Circus. (I love her tagline: “Helping other parents feel superior, one blog entry at a time.”) Jenny’s entry, like Jen’s and Mir’s, also threads her personal story into her take on the book. But unlike the other two bloggers thus far, Jenny hasn’t experienced depression, post-partum or otherwise. When you haven’t experienced something first-hand, it can be difficult to understand what it’s like for those who have. But in this case, it’s fascinating to see things from the perspective of a reader who hasn’t been treated for or even suffered from depression. [...] [...] Posting for the Blog Tour today is Jenny at Three Kid Circus. (I love her tagline: “Helping other parents feel superior, one blog entry at a time.”) Jenny’s entry, like Jen’s and Mir’s, also threads her personal story into her take on the book. But unlike the other two bloggers thus far, Jenny hasn’t experienced depression, post-partum or otherwise. When you haven’t experienced something first-hand, it can be difficult to understand what it’s like for those who have. But in this case, it’s fascinating to see things from the perspective of a reader who hasn’t been treated for or even suffered from depression. [...]

]]> By: Stacia http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11257 Stacia Wed, 09 Aug 2006 11:44:55 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11257 My family sounds like yours. My grandma, my mom (and at least one of her siblings) and I suffer from chronic depression. Of the ten grandkids, at least 5 of us also suffer. We're also prone to addictions (my brother suffers from the worse on both counts). For these reasons, I decided to adopt. I know that environment also plays a large role, but since the genetics seemed so prevelent, I really don't want to risk it. But, it sounds like this is still a book I should read before I become a mom. My family sounds like yours. My grandma, my mom (and at least one of her siblings) and I suffer from chronic depression. Of the ten grandkids, at least 5 of us also suffer. We’re also prone to addictions (my brother suffers from the worse on both counts). For these reasons, I decided to adopt. I know that environment also plays a large role, but since the genetics seemed so prevelent, I really don’t want to risk it. But, it sounds like this is still a book I should read before I become a mom.

]]> By: Briana http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11247 Briana Wed, 09 Aug 2006 04:31:22 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11247 I appreciate the way you pointed out for us that maternal depression isn't a transitory thing during those first couple months. Motherhood is for life. And the ebb and flow of depression can be as well. I think it is wonderful that so many people are able to identify their own depression and anxiety nowadays. Sometimes what makes it harder is when our parents see it as a weakness. Am I the only one that struggles with that part? It is hard to watch my little boy (13 months) and think that maybe oneday he'll feel those dark places that I hope so badly he won't have to. But you are all so right. Maybe me dealing with my own shaddows will teach him that it is okay to seek help in a positive way as well (when/if he needs to). Thanks for sharing and encouraging the rest of us to dig deeper into our own selves. We love you, Mir. I appreciate the way you pointed out for us that maternal depression isn’t a transitory thing during those first couple months. Motherhood is for life. And the ebb and flow of depression can be as well.
I think it is wonderful that so many people are able to identify their own depression and anxiety nowadays. Sometimes what makes it harder is when our parents see it as a weakness. Am I the only one that struggles with that part?
It is hard to watch my little boy (13 months) and think that maybe oneday he’ll feel those dark places that I hope so badly he won’t have to. But you are all so right. Maybe me dealing with my own shaddows will teach him that it is okay to seek help in a positive way as well (when/if he needs to). Thanks for sharing and encouraging the rest of us to dig deeper into our own selves. We love you, Mir.

]]> By: Vicki http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11245 Vicki Wed, 09 Aug 2006 03:55:49 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11245 I definitely will have to read this one. I've been on depression meds since the birth of daugter #3 (and last one I might add) four years ago. My mother has depression and my older brother is bipolar. I spend most of my nights hoping and praying that I or even worse my kids won't end up the way he has. Thank you so much for telling me about this book. I'm going to B&N first thing in the AM. I definitely will have to read this one. I’ve been on depression meds since the birth of daugter #3 (and last one I might add) four years ago. My mother has depression and my older brother is bipolar. I spend most of my nights hoping and praying that I or even worse my kids won’t end up the way he has. Thank you so much for telling me about this book. I’m going to B&N first thing in the AM.

]]> By: Krisco http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11244 Krisco Wed, 09 Aug 2006 03:55:25 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11244 There were a lot of points there that I really had never thought about, like how thoroughly you pass on those tendencies, along with the coping skills, to your kids. Thank you for sharing your own personal experience with the review of the book. That makes the review that much more engaging. There were a lot of points there that I really had never thought about, like how thoroughly you pass on those tendencies, along with the coping skills, to your kids.

Thank you for sharing your own personal experience with the review of the book. That makes the review that much more engaging.

]]> By: Lisa C. http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11240 Lisa C. Tue, 08 Aug 2006 23:18:24 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11240 From my corner where I am sobbing... The thing about the coping skills is the punch-in-the-gut part that stood out for me. I just imagine my sweet son in 20 years, after failing a test or something (he'll be 23 then), ordering a big ass pizza and some Pepsi to make himself feel better. Oh. Meeeeeep. Meeeep..... Returning to my corner to sob some more... From my corner where I am sobbing…

The thing about the coping skills is the punch-in-the-gut part that stood out for me. I just imagine my sweet son in 20 years, after failing a test or something (he’ll be 23 then), ordering a big ass pizza and some Pepsi to make himself feel better. Oh. Meeeeeep. Meeeep…..

Returning to my corner to sob some more…

]]> By: Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11238 Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah Tue, 08 Aug 2006 19:07:17 +0000 http://wouldashoulda.com/2006/08/08/blog-book-tour-the-ghost-in-the-house/#comment-11238 I'm reading this book too, and it really has been very emotional for me. I'm glad to hear that you had the same reaction. I think it will make it easier for me to keep reading. I’m reading this book too, and it really has been very emotional for me. I’m glad to hear that you had the same reaction. I think it will make it easier for me to keep reading.

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